Interpersonal communication is not my strong suit, (Cue the sarcastic “NO! You think?”) but I think I have FINALLY figured out something about Mrs Zone.
She likes to complain about her job, whatever her job may be. Each job she has is the worst anybody has been forced to keep. Each boss is the dumbest and most obnoxious on Earth. I long ago gave up complaining about my own jobs because it just gets her going. And one of our worst fights came about because I suggested she get a new job and, when she said she couldn’t find one, pointed out that she hadn’t performed the first step, that of opening the want ads.
According to that Mars and Venus dude the miscommunication stems from my being from Mars, and results-oriented, and her being from Venus, or communications oriented. Apparently, I was supposed to sit there, looking sympathetic, and cooing crap about how right she was and how they didn’t know a good thing when they saw it.
You folks know me well enough, I think, to know that I don’t have a lot of patience with supportive crap. I would rather FIX a problem than talk about it.
Again today she’s threatening to quit her job, a part-time job that pays a LOT better than other part-time jobs, because her boss is getting “threatening.” This is the statement she saw as threatening:
“You HAVE to stay until five on Tuesday because I won’t be here and this place falls apart if I’m not here.”
She reads this as “Stay here until five or I’ll fire you.” I read it as “You are the only person I can depend on to do her job and keep the department going if I’m not here.”
“Well, if she meant that she could have asked NICELY instead of getting all demanding like that.”
So, what I’ve figured out, thanks, in part, to Lexicon’s explanation of why some people like to complain about little things in my “Quitcher bitchin’” Pit thread, is that MRS ZONE JUST LIKES TO COMPLAIN ABOUT HER JOBS! She doesn’t REALLY plan to “quit and go to work at McDonalds.” And that’s why she has been complaining about this job since she got it four years and four bosses ago.
Maybe this is obvious to YOU, but I’m a guy and NOTHING is obvious to ME. Hell, THIS took me twenty-five years to figure out!
So, my plan is to start trying that sympathy crap and keep my eye rolling to a minimum (she’s the part-timer–OF COURSE they treat her like crap!). Do you think I’ve got it right, finally?