I hope it’s not the kind of crazy that runs in the family.
Personally I would beat him with a 2x4 and then say ‘Oh, you’re just choosing to bleed from your head, my actions have no effect on you.’
Injunction-junction, what’s your function?
Hookin’ up kids with crazy-assed fathers
Injunction-junction, how’s that function?
Settin’ up a weddin’, without any bothers…
I got “restraining order”, and “Cease and Desist”
(don’t be pissed)
Cause Finances matter, pay for your pratter,
Add to List,
Cuffs on Wrist
(Get ma gist?)
Injunction-junction, what’s your function?
Hookin’ up kids with crazy-assed fathers
Injunction-junction, how’s that function?
Settin’ up a weddin’, without any bothers…
Injunction-junction or a Vegas Luncheon,
I’m gonna get you there, unless you’re Very Careful…
So, using my super-astute powers of deductive reasoning, your wedding is on April 24th. My fifth anniversary, by the way, but that is of no consequence at this time (unless you want to send me gifts, in which case, email me for our addy).
Anyway … one of my absolute best friends in the Whole Wide World is also getting married on April 24th, and her wedding is turning out to be a fiasco, as well. I won’t get into all the gory details, but I believe that the date 04/24/04 is cursed, wedding-wise, and I would like to add my voice to the chorus of Dopers advising you to elope.
Good luck with whatever you decide … and if you need help murdolating your father in law, let me know. I gots connections.
All you need is a bouncer. Get a big guy to stand at the door of the receptionthingie with a checklist. Put up a velvet rope. Give him a list. If you ain’t on the list, you ain’t gettin’ in.
Easy and I’m sure a big, musclebound guy would be more cost-effective than this madness.
Aw crap, I feel for you. Seriously. It’s common for some cultures to invite everyone in the community to a wedding because it is seen more as a “business affair” than an intimate family event. And weddings in Asia are often more social events where people come by, eat and leave on a semi-regular basis than a big ceremony with announcements and dances. Plus, I know that at least in certain Asian cultures, giving money rather than gifts off a registry is the custom, so the more people you invite, the more money you make, blah blah blah… but that does not solve your problem, sorry.
Does your future FIL intend to pay for at least part of the wedding or does he assume that the bride’s family (or the couple) will foot the entire bill? Are you having the wedding wherever you live or in India (or do you live in India)? What are the chances that all them people are going to show? Sometimes people get confused with wedding invitations vs. announcements. I know a friend’s mother-in-law asked for 300 wedding invitations just for her friends and extended family, when what she really wanted were 300 wedding announcements.
I say, if at all possible, if your future FIL wants to have all 300 of his peeps at the wedding, do the actual wedding your way and have him pay for a separate reception afterwards. Show up, smile, fulfill your obligations and be done with it.
The FIL is not paying for anything except the party “he” is planning on the 22nd. And that’s for his friends. He said he wanted to invite my friends and family, but the invitation he sent was only to his friends. I don’t think that he didn’t invite them intentionally, but he’s very forgetful, and uninterested in anyone’s agenda but his own. My mom has asked him to stop sending the invitations out, too, but he just tells all of us to “stop stressing,” then gives us that load of crap about choosing to get mad.
As far as invitations vs. announcements, they’re the invitations all right, and he knows it. We sent save-the-dates, and he didn’t insist on copying any of those. We explained to him all the parts of the invitation (RSVP card, direction card, etc.), so he knows exactly what they are. But he copied them anyway.
I’m determined to have a good time on my wedding day, though. So if we start getting RSVPs from people who aren’t on the list, we will just have to uninvite them. It’s rude, but I don’t know what else to do. The person I’m worried about most, though, is my fiance, who is close to breaking all ties with his father over this. I’m also pissed because it’s one thing for the FIL to not listen to me and my fiance. After all, in most parents’ eyes, their children will always be children no matter what their age, so sometimes they just don’t listen. But to give that load of SHIT about choosing to get mad to my mother is unforgivable. Like they said in that movie, “No one talks to mamma that way!”
Regardless of what happens, I WILL have fun, dammit. It’s OUR wedding. Hmph!
I’m starting to think you’re talking about my Father In Law. 
I know how frustrating this is for you. We had some definite cultural differences going on during our wedding. I guess we were lucky, because we held the ceremony and reception at home, so there was no way in hell my FIL could have invited 300 people. But, he did get stinkin’ drunk by the time dinner was over, and he decided to sing (baaaaaaadly and at full volume) when we cut the cake.
It ain’t a wedding unless something goes wrong. 
I guess what I’m trying to say in the end is that no wedding ever goes smoothly and perfectly. Keep a good sense of humor about it, stick to your guns about what you want, and be there for your fiance–it sounds like he’s having a rough time if he’s talking about cutting family ties.