This is more of an opinion hunt, so I thought this would be the best forum.
My parents have gotten over the initial shock of my engagement and are even comfortable enough to invite their work friends to the ceremony. This is a big deal. When I first told them about my comming marriage, they were ashamed to even bring it up with family. But that’s a whole other issue.
The problem now is, their group of friends brings the reception party to least at 50 people, more than double the number my fiance and I were going to invite. My mom would like to bring more. Also, my parents aren’t in the best state financially. Not like me and my fiance are any better. So, our original plans of treating everyone a to $40/plate dinner are completely screwed. I’ve asked my parents if they could maybe cover half the dinner costs, but there’s no way.
What should I do? Tell them to invite fewer? Ask the guests to chip in a bit in leu of a wedding gift? Take everyone to Denny’s? We’ve thought of having a BBQ reception since the ceremony is at the beach anyway. Anyone been to one of these? Did it come off as totally stupid or hick?