Yeah, right. If EvilWife spent $400 on a bedspread, I wouldn’t be allowed to touch it, let alone risk wrinkling it with some sweet, sweet lovin’.
Oh, and GMRyujin, I think I paid about that much for my bed too. And that’s in Canadian dollars.
Ouch. I don’t think I have a horribly misplaced value system just because I want to buy a really nice bedspread for my home.
And to clarify, the first bedspread was purchased for us by wedding gift cards. The second one was purchased for us as a late birthday gift from my parents. So, technically, this MPB would be the first one we purchased on our own in our 3 1/2 years of being married.
Yes, I agree…$400 is a lot of money for a bedspread. But, I have worked very hard this past year taking a new job, pushing for my raise, etc. If I can afford to buy it, then I don’t think that makes my value system any more wonky than anybody elses.
However, I made a promise that I would pay off my credit card this year so I’m sticking to that. If I were to buy this MPB then I would be taking the extra money I’m paying on my card to do it, which would still leave me with the balance on the card. That is what I’m working towards getting rid of.
After the card is hopefully gone this year then I can go out and buy whichever MPB I want.
Yours is so pretty too! Where is the rolling on the floor crying smiley when you need one? I miss my MPB.
That is a pretty bed, Aries. It would work in my bedroom too.
Isn’t it interesting how everyone has a different idea of how to spend money? It would never occur to me to put much into furnishings and other household stuff. Nor do I care about nicer clothes or a fancy car or classy wines. But when it comes to our boat, we get the best we can afford! I know there are those who shake their heads at that, just as I can’t comprehend a $400 bedspread.
Good thing we don’t have to take a poll before spending, isn’t it? 
WHICHEVER?
Dark Lord, she deceives you? There is no ONE MPB! She means to spend your money in vain!
She will counter, of course, by saying that there are several in that particular color (goes to color schemes; no good can come from this). But she said “whichever”, not “whichever of the particular hue matches the bedroom and the pantry and the portcullis and the specific color of the fire of The Eye”.
There is more than one. Do with this information what you can, my Dark Lord.
If I had to take a poll on how to spend my money beforehand I am sure I would never get to spend a dime! 
We don’t like classy wines and Sauron would wear the same clothes he had in college if I let him but when it comes to my home I want the best. I get that from my mother. She drilled into my head that if it means you wait an extra year or two to save to get the solid wood furniture versus the fake stuff then that’s what you do. Her home is filled with beautiful antiques and nice things that one day (God, I hope not anytime soon) my sister and I will inherit.
I’m sure both my boys won’t care two bits about inheriting all the nice things I’ve gotten…I can just see the yard sale the two of them will have once I’m dead and gone!
I am really generous with my money…to a fault almost. I give to charities. I support my church financially. I volunteer my time a lot to various groups and pay for things out of my own pocket. I can’t walk past a group soliciting money without dropping a buck or two in their buckets.
So, yes, $400 is a lot for a bedspread but I have resigned myself to the fact that until I uphold my end of the deal and pay off this card I won’t be getting it.
Aries sweetheart. You have missed the Sekrit She-Woman Meetings.
Remember one of the first FACTS of Married/COHAB LIFE: * Your partner will never give you permission for you to buy what you really want. * This is not referring to big ticket items like a house, car, Bose Stereophonic Surround Sound or a kegerator.
It’s the nickel and dime things in life that always come under fire. shoes, clothing, the DVD of BUffy’s first season.
Because by you buying these things, it cuts into their budget for whatever their little whimsical passion is ( tools that they never use, the entire DVD collection to Dorf on Golf. Y’know, things that are useless and retarded.)
Example:
In the near 11 years since we have committed ourselves to the lunacy of marriage, every time I have said to Mr. Ujest ( Usually via phone) that I was going to get the oil changed on the car
( his or mine) he has said (every time) " This isn’t a good time." Meaning financially. I am quite aware of getting an oil change being far less than a party hat & noise blower affair.
In this decade, had I actually listened to him ( ha!) we would have never had one oil change except on our tractor, which, above all, is far more important than any of our two other methods of transportation.
Remember, when they say no, it means go.
Disclaimer: Except in the sticky area regarding sex. Men always want sex and if they are saying no, it means they are trying to use reverse physcology on you in order to wet their whistle. However, when a woman says no, it means, " Touch me and you will feel a cold artic breeze on your side of the bed, bub."
**Moral Lession ** It is easier to beg for forgiveness than ask for permission. **
That said, growing up in the Permanent Depression Post Modern Garage Sale era, is it possible to buy the sheets from this MPB and make a comforter cover out of them that will match a reasonable facsmilie or whould that fall under the catagory of Not Even Close?
Or, keep an eye on it and wait until the end of Linen Season ( April/May) and see if it has been drastically reduced. Or possibly, maybe your strong feelings of it being the MPB will have changed.
Summarily, most men, I feel sure, never understand the Quest for the Holy Grail that is MPB.
There’s a Linen Season? Is it anything like Duck season or Wabbit Season? I swear, who comes up with these things… A season for linen. I don’t think The Byrds ever mentioned that in the song…
See, Shirley I can’t even use his purchases against him. He doesn’t drink so I can’t bring up all his beer runs. He doesn’t play golf so I can’t harp on that. He drives the older car in our family…a 93 Mazda while I drive the 97 gas guzzling Pathfinder.
It isn’t so much asking permission to buy things…I actually make slightly more in salary than him so it’s my money too.
I just know how much effort he puts into our budget then I don’t stick to it and while we have the money to make up for it he hates carrying any type of balance on a credit card. It is a very admirable thing…one I just haven’t gotten the hang of yet.
For the time being, I am going to just put the MPB out of my mind and see if in another 6 months or so (when my credit card is much lower) if I still feel as strongly about it. If I do, then I’ll broach the subject again.
If I don’t, then I’m sure at that point I will find a new Most Perfect thing to decide we must have. It’s what I do.
For me it’s computer equipment. I save money by building and upgrading myself, but I just spent $150 on Klipsch 2.1 computer speakers, and I’m not even an audiophile! That’s from my personal spending money, though.
Husband also buys quality computer components for his machine, but he also just spent nearly $300 on a cordless drill (joint money, not personal). Fortunately, we don’t have any credit card debt, so it’s not a big deal. I would never consider $400 for a MPB, though I have spent a respectable amount for decent quality sheets (cheap sheets just get too thin too fast).
I really wish someone would explain to me the purpose of pillow shams, though. I hate when I have to remove fifteen items in order to get into a bed. I don’t even make the bed unless we’re having company (and then I just sort of toss the blankets over the bed neatly).
I sleep on a couch that I bought from GoodWill for $40 and use a sleeping bag I have had since I was 17. It’s actually quite comfortable.
That said I am thinking of buying a bed just so I can have these sheets. Because they look so…I dunno what…fluffy? And wonderful
http://www.sears.ca/cgi-bin/ic_item.cgi?id=517&lang=e&itemID=110027&cid=99&mq=10