Not only did I finally convince my getting-frail, elderly in-laws to agree to selling their three-story monstrosity of a house and look into something smaller and with less upkeep, but I also managed to convince them that this was entirely their own idea all along.
AND… I took my mom-in-law out shopping today for senior-friendly housing. She was slightly distrustful. In her day, you put old folks in a home and that was that and nosirreebob, she wasn’t having any of that nonsense. But only slightly distrustful, because she knows I love her and that I truly have her very best interests at heart. She growled once: “I am NOT playing bingo with a bunch of old farts and you better not think I’m getting on a damn bus and going off to WalMart every day!”
Well, we found a condo in a seniors-only building. Pricey, but well within her and Dad’s budget restrictions. Gorgeous brand new condos with amenities up the yin-yang. Discreet accessibility features, like handrails that are cleverly disguised as attractive wood moulding in the common hallways. Fully equipped kitchens and built in washers and dryers in each unit. Two CNAs living in the building and on call 24/7. Activities that actually sound like FUN, not a shuffleboard in sight. High security and “wellness management” - the staff checks on residents daily, but again, discreetly. Housekeeping. Everything well-kept, everything they need at practically arm’s reach, and everything you can think of that would extend one’s ability to live independently but not ALONE.
By the time we left the sales office, Mom was ready to pack everything and move in. We let Dad in on the news (he’s still recovering from that broken ankle and concussion he got last week in a bad fall.) Dad didn’t grumble. Dad said, “They even have a barbershop in the building?!?” I was agreeable about helping them get packed and moved and about helping them sell their house.
The best part is… it’s three blocks from where their son and I live, so we can get to them in minutes if they need us. The feeling of relief I am having is indescribable. And most importantly, they are feeling relieved and enthusiastic too.
I am SOOOO happy today!