I don’t know why. I stumbled upon it by accident today in a link from another site. (I won’t list the address since its a commercial site, and I don’t want it to seem like i’m promoting.) I would say its probably one of the webs largest though. So I answered the questions honestly and left a long profile and what I was looking for in a woman… blah blah blah. I even uploaded a pic (dear god).
I was curious. Have any of you used a matchmaking service online or not online? What was your opinion and outcome?
Does this mean I now officially a desperate loser?
I did it kind of on a whim and I don’t expect to get much of a response but I figured it can’t hurt since its free.
I did it, through match.com and it was a good experience. If you keep in mind that there are a lot of genuinely nice people out there, but chances are you won’t be attracted to the vast majority of the people you meet in person, you’ll do OK. I don’t mean that to sound as negative as it does, as I’ve said elsewhere, it’s good practice. It’s certainly made me a more interesting date, and if you can go into it with a hopeful attitude, but not be counting on every single one being ‘the’ one you can learn a lot. Eventually the right one does magically appear (I hope). The only reason I stopped is I’m too busy with work and school, but once I’m free I’ll probably do it again.
FWIW I did meet a couple of losers, but for the most part they were really nice guys and the evening was usually enjoyable. My favorite strategy is to meet in a place with a couple of restaurants to choose from and good bookstore nearby. I find I learn a lot more about the guys browsing through Barnes and Noble than I do over dinner.
One time, on a lark, I signed up with a match making service online as a completely fictitional character. I signed up as a female fetus floating in a jar in a doctor’s labratory. I told them it took my entire hand to punch a key, and writing a profile was quite difficult. I was looking for a man who could help me escape because my brain had yet to be sufficiently developed and I couldn’t form a plan.
I have, as of this date, gotten NINE replies to this ad. Some of them laughed, said “fetus huh? cool.” and went on to try and flirt with me in their introductory e-mail, despite not really knowing a thing about me (or my real sex). Most, however, didn’t even remotely come close to grasping the concept that the whole profile was a joke. I don’t even think they read it. They saw “female” and hit reply.
So no, whammo, I don’t think you’re pathetic at all.
I think you are absolutely not a loser. In fact, so many people are doing that these days. It’s just a sign of the times IMO. We are more and more co-dependent on technology these days as a majority.
Besides, what’s the difference between placing an ad in the paper, and using a service online? It’s faster, and more efficient IMO.
I’ve done it as well, and I’ve been fairly succesful. There are plenty of poeple here who have met that way as well.
No need to feel wierd.
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I haven’t, but I almost did. I’m sure you can find my old thread about it somewhere. It was one of those really personalized services and ee had come to sort of an agreement, but I decided against it at the last minute. It’s a crapshoot, but I’ve known people who have done very well using them. Good luck to you, anyway.
Around the time psycat and I first started talking/flirting on the boards, that Pimpin’ Cupid thing from thespark.com was going around. Turns out we both went and put just one other person in for our “crush lists”: Each other. That’s one of my favorite memories.
I’ve never put up a profile, but about a year ago, I browsed some profiles on a “free trial” offer and found a profile that matched me sooooo perfectly…problem is, she’s very skittish and lives 6 hours away.
We’re still corresponding, a year later. Think I’ll see if she wants to finally hook up for the turning of the REAL millennium. Just call me the King of the Slow Movers.
I’ve been on, and search through both socialnet.com and the yahoo!personals. I’ve e-mailed with about 15 people and met 4. None of the them called me back, and frankly, I was a little relived in each instance. None were ugly or obvious liars, just no chemistry and less intelligence than I’d hoped for. I found most men do not read the ads, or at least not all of it. I got much mail from men who were looking for mothers for their children, when my socialnet ad specifically said “no kids”. I think most people just troll through, sending mail to whomever fits their gender/location/smoking requirements.
One of my married friends was openly derisive that any “sane, cute woman” would need to do such a thing, but he was one of the many whose attention I could not seem to catch back when we were both single. So, no I don’t think you’re desperate, Whammo. Bound for disappointment, maybe; but not desperate.
Good luck in your search.
I’m on a date site and have found it’s just like real life - full of good guys AND losers. I’ve been communicating as friends with a couple of guys and I’ve been on a few dates, too. It all has to do with the amount of time you’re willing to put into the process, and how honest everyone is on the site. Again, just like real life, only slower (which is fine with me). Happy searching, Whammo!
I joined a dating service (not online) many years ago. I admit it, after 15 years of dating I was getting desperate. It was a very interesting experience. I (a female of the species) was outnumbered 20 to 1 by guys, so I would get referrals in the mail. Which were like little forms listing name, rank, serial number, pertinent information on the prospective gentleman caller. I was free to call them, or they could call me. I got so many referrals it was ridiculous. I had dozens and dozens of future husbands to choose from (yeah, right). In one week I received an all time high of 11 phone calls from guys asking me out. I went out with about two dozen guys, slept with only one. They were all perfectly nice, presentable, intelligent people, there were no “losers”, though a couple were not my type at all. The one I slept with was knock out, drop dead gorgeous but very flighty and not anxious to get into a relationship. Then I met the future Mr.Salinqmind and I knew the minute I saw him, without the slightest doubt in my mind, that he was The One and we’d be together until one of us saw the other put into the grave. Hard to explain, it wasn’t a mad grand passion, but we were very much alike in a lot of ways and wanted the same things in life, and neither of us was getting any younger, so we eventually got married and got the house and two cars and kid and lived somewhat happily ever after. It’s been a long hard haul, through thick and thin, but it will be 18 years in August.
I’ve heard A LOT of good things about matchmaking online. Go on, give it a try!!! I never felt like a loser about joining the matchmaking service when I did. I sat around for 15 years waiting for the gods to drop an eligible man into my lap. It depends on what you want in a mate, what you want in life. Don’t just leave it up to chance! Good luck, let us know what happens. I look at Mr. Salinqmind sometimes and think what a bargain I got for $200.
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