Not intentionally, of course. My sister-in-law is a bit of a disaster and she’s visiting for the night with her 17-year old son in Calgary. The sister-in-law invited a friend (party girl) to dinner where we had some drinks and everyone got kind of tipsy but not really a problem at this point. My wife and I took the train home while everyone else rode with the friend, where they stopped by the liquor store on the way to our apartment.
I don’t much care about drinking contained to our apartment, but on one of their smoke breaks (friend, wife, and 17-year old), friend and 17-year old talk their way into the local pub for shots. They come back to apartment but want to return for more drinking/partying. I see the writing on the wall and resist, but am powerless(?) against the tide that just want to have a couple drinks at the local pub, it will be fine (yeah, right).
So the four of us (me, wife, friend, 17-year old nephew-in-law) go to pub (yes, the doorman/bouncer was that lax in Calgary). Things go bad quickly. Friend and nephew get drinks and friend/party girl gets lots of attention from the guys she can’t/won’t resist and wife and I are in the situation of forcing a grown woman out of a drunken situation she shouldn’t be in(?) or get the nephew out of there, so we choose the latter. Back in the apartment, I couldn’t stand just leaving her there and went back, but by the time I got there she was gone, car and all. It’s probably worth mentioning that we tried to make sure her car keys weren’t in her purse (verified by two individuals), but apparently that wasn’t checked enough. She was gone and in the wind on her safety status.
17-year old texted her and friend eventually called saying she was okay but not commenting if she was alone or not. On the one hand, it’s probably on her who she messed around with and if she was driving drunk, but I can’t get my involvement out of my head. Should I have put my foot down on going out? My wife would have listened, but probably not friend or 17-year-old (whose mother is useless). Insisted friend leave bar with us? Not really likely she would volunteer at this point, and do I want to cause a diplomatic incident with “the horny guys” given I am an American on a work visa?
I don’t know. I feel like shit that she eventually did something she wouldn’t have at the beginning of the night, but I can’t clearly say where I would done things differently. Maybe I won’t be up all night thinking about this now. (not that i shouldn’t be).