I just heard Leo DiCaprio say “I like to get kissed before I get fucked” (fucked as in, screwed over on a deal, not actual sex) in Blood Diamond.
Al Pacino’s character says virtually the same exact thing (“Kiss me. When I’m getting fucked, I like to get kissed a lot.”) in Dog Day Afternoon.
What I want to know is, is this an expression that’s in common use, or was it just invented straight up for Dog Day Afternoon and then plagiarised/referenced/homaged in Blood Diamond?
Interesting question. It’s a phrase I’ve heard and/or used most of my life. If someone screws you over, you might say, “Aw, damnit, fucked without a kiss.”
Not sure where it came from, though. I’ve probably been saying since I was a pre-teen. Dog Day Afternoon, however, predates my arrival on the scene by three years. I’d be interested to know the orgins, too.
I’ve heard it used in conversation before, at least as early as 1987 or so.
“Did the salesman kiss you when you bought that shirt?”
“Uh, no. Why?”
“Well, I like to get kissed before I get fucked.”
Granted, that was post-Dog Day Afternoon, but I can state with certainty that the person who said it had never seen the movie.
Also in Wanted Dead or Alive.
I remember hearing it in the late 1970’s.
I’ve heard it, and variants of it, for most of my life.
One variant: “If you’re gonna fuck me, at least give me a reach-around.”
Oh, it’s far older than that. Cary Grant says it, word for word, to Katherine Hepburn in Bringing Up Baby. Right after she destroys his dinosaur skeleton.
(…but I thought it was when the “miserable cur” buried his bone.)
Nothing to add to the thread, but why do I love the SDMB? Because someone uses a spoiler box on Bringing Up Baby. 
This has to be a regional expression, or at least every region except mine, because I’ve never heard that phrase in conversation, ever! I’ve also never lived anywhere but the northeast.
Most often you’ll hear something like “I just got fucked and he didn’t even use any lube.”
Also “They could have at least bought me dinner before they fucked me.”.
It’s a pretty common meme that probably goes way back in many forms.
Not sure, but my girlfriend uses it a lot and I don’t think she’s seen those films either.
Well since we’re veering off onto a side road with this thread…
Drill Instructor Hartman from Full Metal Jacket gave us the memorable line:
Ah that R. Lee Ermey. What a card!
Nope, it’s used there. I grew up in NW PA, and I’ve heard it/used it or a variant since at least the 60s.
In the “Repo Man” theme, Iggy Pop sings:
I was a teenage dinosaur
Stoned and obsolete
I didn’t get fucked and I didn’t get kissed
I got so fucking pissed
“Kiss you?!? I shouldn’t even be doing this!”
Um, maybe you should start kissing her then.
Uh, yeah. Probably should. Next time maybe. I’ll remember.
R. Lee Ermey in Full Metal Jacket, right?
I have no idea how old an expression it is, but I would hazard that it wasn’t invented as part of a movie screenplay. It would have been a common expression before that. That is just a guess, though.
There are two phrases that spring to mind here. One is: Everything old is new again.
The other? Better safe than sorry. 