Text schmext. I found out when the police arrived and arrested me.
Love means never having to say “You’re nicked!”
A couple friends of mine had been dating, when she suddenly decided to break up. Instead of an email, phone call, or face-to-face, all of which would have been private, she dumped him via facebook, and changed her “relationship status” immediately. He was busy, and didn’t see the actual message right away, so instead found out when a friend called him to ask him about the “breakup”, because they had given every indication of being a happy couple for over a year. The kicker is that she wasn’t intentionally being cruel, as she is generally a very nice girl who didn’t have any particular problem with him.
That has to be the coldest breakup I’ve ever witnessed. I mean, via email is one thing, but via a public medium where the dumpee might not be the first to know about it?
That poster name/post combo amuses me.
I have to say, I totally agree with this. It seems like it just creates more drama and ups the humiliation factor. I’d always rather get bad news in private.
In the spirit of honesty, I should clear one thing up.
The original e-mail was a mature expression of what her expectations were and how I was not meeting them.
Her response was NOT the Simpson’s quote. I added that as a (meant-to-be) humorous paraphrase.
I deleted her response, but I think it was very close to: Six, We can talk, but I’m not changing my mind. [EOM]
At any rate, I didn’t so much mean to demonize her as to try to take some of the sting out through (a-lame-attempt-at) humor.
I’m dumbfounded that people would use text messaging to relay such personal information. It shows cowardice and a lack of manners.
There’s a radio commercial airing here where some guy is informed of his wife’s pregnancy by a text message, and it makes me cringe every time I hear it.
I have a friend who was dumped via text message. The relationship was going fine, or so he thought. In fact, he wasn’t sure it was a total breakup or just a broken date at first.
He was pretty bummed about it.
I am counting up and feeling like quite the dick…
Broke up with one girl via email. I did call her, after I sent the email, because I thought my email was a ‘letter of things bugging me’ and wanted to talk them over and she thought it was ‘Welcome to dumpsville. Population You.’ But by the end of the call we were definitely broken up. Of course I lived in England and she was back home in the US, so the phone call was kinda understandable as I wasn’t gonna spend $1,000+ just to break up with her!
Broke up with another via text. Not really a girlfriend, just a holiday hook-up who didn’t take the hint when we both got back to our respective homes that it was just for the holidays. So just kept texting her neutral things and avoiding every possible link until she gave up.
It was always in private, though, so maybe I am less of a dick than the guy / girl who dumped via facebook :eek:
Well, with my first boyfriend, I found out I’d been dumped from a mutual friend, to whom he’s sent out a group email along the lines of “Angua and I are no longer together”. He then came to find me after that email to dump me.
With my previous boyfriend (the one I talked about here a couple of times), I at least had the grace to break up with him face to face. Which he didn’t really take too well, or accept that we’d broken up. So, suddenly out of the blue, when discussing plans on a mailing list of mutual friends, when I mentioned that they’d better count me out cause I was busy, he sent me an email telling me that I should consider myself dumped… :dubious:
I’ve never been dumped in the era of the text message.
But, email, text. . .except for pretty serious relationships, it’s good enough. People who get dumped always think they’re entitled to a lot more than they are. You’re dumped. You’re not entitled to a face-to-face, or an explanation, or even the truth.
My now ex-wife dumped me, via IM, while at work. We worked for the same company, her two floors above mine. She sent me an IM letting me know that she has taken an offer with the company in their London office and wanted a divorce.
At 9:30 AM on a Monday. Someone definitely had a bad case of the Mondays…
MeanJoe
I don’t blame IM, email or txt.
For me, in the late '80s, it was a scrawled note that said “I don’t want to see you any more”, after I’d driven 200 miles to see her (and following a week of positive, affectionate correspondence from her) - poked out of her front door letterbox as I stood there ringing her doorbell, and could see her through the stained glass window.
There have always been shitty ways of dumping people. I’d imagine Ug once left a bunch of stones outside Flug’s cave that indicated “I no longer wish to drag you around by your hair”.
I agree with you on that front.
In the grand scheme of things I should count my blessings. One evolutionary hiccup and that e-mail could have read:
I am no longer interested in seeing you.
It’s not you it’s me.
I was unable to overcome my Mantodean heritage when we had sex and that’s why I ate your head.
Sorry.
I have only been dumped face to face.
I think I might prefer a text message.
I went out with a woman for about 8 months. While I was travelling in Europe, I got an e-mail where she laid out some issues she wanted to talk about. I replied. Never heard from her again.
Geez. No wonder you’re Mean 
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We were still scratching marks on rock tablets when this happened, but it was sure a horrible way to be dumped:
My boyfriend invited me to a party at his fraternity. I arrived at the festivities and he completely avoided me – spent the whole evening ostentatiously asking other girls to dance, and walking away from me if I went toward him (which I stopped doing pretty fast; I can take a hint).
Fortunately some nice guys in his frat rallied around me and spent the whole evening with me, telling me not to take it personally, the guy was a jerk and he did that to girls all the time. Their decency was unforgettable. (However, this guy was the social director of the frat, an elected position. Hmmph.)
It hurt like hell, since I had been pretty seriously infatuated with him.
Hahaha - Nah, I’m not a mean guy at all but that was one difficult ride home together from work.
MeanJoe