If that’s true, there’s just one more example of how school would be worth something. I suck to death at math, but thank god I sat through it.
Four pages?!? How much more can be said about this, fercryinoutloud?
(Hopefully nothing)
Happy
Wow, that’s even worse then my roommate.
Yeah catsix, that was her. I had forgotten about that.
Amazing.
A pet peeve of mine (along with judging others for judging) is when people post to threads to comment the thread should die a merciful death.
All you do is pop it back up to the top of the thread list and get people to open it up wondering what insightful comment has been made. Then discovering that no insightful comment has been made, some people feel compelled to add something. Counterproductive. If you think everything has been said, don’t say anything. The thread will work its way down from the top of the page and sooner or later end up on page two or three where fewer people will find it and feel they need to comment.
I remember in that thread people bringing up the fact that it could possibly happen that at some point, her husband could die before her and she’d have to be able to write a check or pay a bill, and she just stuck her head in the sand and la la la’d about how someone would take care of her because she just ‘couldn’t learn that’.
Yeah, I think that was the same thread that I brought up the “what if” about her husband leaving. These things do happen, especially since they’re both so young. They’ve got a LOT of years together ahead of them, to not take any precautions whatsoever in case of the event that she does end up single is just silly. I consider myself an optimistic person, but also a bit of a realist. More marriages end up failing than suceeding. Having a back up plan and knowing how to take care of yourself isn’t merely smart, it’s a necessity.
And Dangerosa, I couldn’t agree more. I never understood why people felt the need to do that. Also, why they feel like their opinion is going to suddenly halt the thread. Like the participants are going to see the post and say to themselves “oh my! So and So thinks we should stop posting to this thread! No, they’re not the OP and no, they’re not a mod, but they’re SO AND SO! We’d better stop!”
Yeah. Keep telling yourself how important you are.
You know something though? She hasn’t come back in and posted ANY “yeah butts” or other type posts.
I personally have hope for the girl. Now, granted, I haven’t been around very long, so maybe she’s opted out before and then come back and been the same.
But to me? The fact that she’s showed enough self-control not to come to this thread and try to keep stirring up sympathy? Well, just mho, but it seems like a positive step in the right direction.
Blow it out your arse. Obviously I can’t close this thread, and obviously I can’t stop you Sigmund Freuds from offering your psychological opinions of a poster who’s is now basically gone. And obviously my posting bounces it to the top, but with several new posts being added every hour, I didn’t exactly revive this one from the second page.
And lezlers, why can a roomful of posters offer thier opinions about IDBB’s pshychological health and general character, but a couple of other people can’t offer their opinions on the need for these often-judgemental diagnoses to come to a merciful end?
I said what I said because people here are analyzing, diagnosing and judging IDBB like she’s a friggin character in a book. She said she was leaving, and for all intents and purposes, she has left, so who gives a fuck what she thinks about Mexicans anymore or if she can write a check?
This thread has become a cross between a 300-level English Lit course and a Jerry Springer show.
Everyone, I believe you know Dead Horse, as you’ve been pounding the snot out of him for two, neigh, three pages now. And before I find myself joining you on the Seabiscuit Stomp, I’ll now retire from this thread.
You want something to talk about? I’ll give you something: Boobies! Now that’s something I’ll stick around for. Otherwise, eh.
Maybe she had her posting priviledges voluntarily suspended? I did that back in December/January.
I’m not going to beat her. I do pity her, but not in the “oh, poor baby!” way. More that it just makes sad to see someone that pathetic.
Whatever happens to her, happens. It’s her responsibility.
Happy,
IIRC, IDBB had big boobies. Posted to many of the “help, my big boobies get in my way and I can’t find a bra threads.” People gave her all sorts of advice about her big boobies, but she wouldn’t post nekkid photos to the web so we could be helpful - refusing to help herself yet again.
(Kidding. I don’t recall anything about IDBBs chest.)
Happy,
You want to know why a room full of posters can offer analysis on IDBB but a handful can’t tell them to stop?
Easy.
The former are expressing their opinions on a forum devoted to just that (well, not the SPECIFIC forum, but you get what I mean) and the latter is trying to tell them that they can’t.
Who sounds like they’re more in the wrong?
Besides,
If it bugs you so darn much, how come you keep opening the thread? It’s not like it’s the only one on the board.
CanvasShoes, you are totally right. If I may, I’d like to follow up on your post.
When I was a teenager and in my early twenties, I was extremely maladjusted. I did a lot of wrong things, said a lot of wrong things, and often looked terrible. Every so often, I would attract the attention of a “normal” person who would take it upon hirself to “help” me by telling me everything I was doing wrong, but not giving me any advice or instruction on what I should do. There were also some people who decided I had to be flung up against the wall and told The Truth About Myself. Now, granted, a lot of my problems were of my own doing, but just telling me that didn’t help me to change.
I well remember the feelings of terror, panic and helplessness I would get after these sessions. “Oh my god…do I really look like that? Do I really sound like that? All the time? Do people really think that? Yes, I know they were laughing at me, but what can I do about it?”
“You just have to change.”
“HOW?!”
“…”
So I would be thrust even further downwards into depression and self-loathing, and even deeper into the rut that fostered this behavior in the first place. If any of the “helpful” types had ever followed through on their vague offers of makeovers and so forth (coaching me in how to walk properly would have been a great idea), that would have helped immensely. Not only because I would have learned what to do/say/wear and so on, but also because the simple fact of someone spending time with me and treating me like I was worth something would have been the boost I needed to sustain proper behavior patterns.
So I was left with the certainty that it was too late to save my reputation, so why bother? As such, I think I know how I_D_B_B must feel. Like there have been so many wrong turns and bad decisions already, she’ll never be able to recoup…so why bother.
Yeah, but also, many people aren’t as good at answering that first question as they think they are. Or, regarding the second request, they may think they’re teaching, but criticism is not instruction.
I don’t think any the people I referenced above ever took into account, or knew, how hard it is to walk “properly” when you’ve just been told that “everyone” goes out of their way to watch you, and “you always do it and everyone laughs at you”. And the people who would say, “See, when you’re nervous, your shoulders go up—there they go again—STOP IT!” Yeah, that really made me less self-conscious. It’s much easier, and more productive, to remember one thing to do than twenty things not to do. But I had no idea what that one thing might be, so I alernated between trying to not do the twenty things, and just saying the hell with it.
And so it probably is with I_D_B_B. I think she knows what she has to do (call the community college and so forth), but just telling her to do that is not going to help her find the courage.
I cannot conceive of a universe where this combination would be a bad thing.
Rilchiam, that was me 10 years ago, and I was not a teenager. The thing is, people have told her specifically what to do and offered to support her while she does it. Short of turning up at her home or place of business with a course catalog from the local community college, what more can we do?
CJ
On this board, nothing. I think she needs people IRL.
Well, we’ve already established that she has a very unsupportive husband, who she seems to worship, for whatever reasons.
I haven’t heard her mention any friends and I don’t think she’s on the best of terms with her family.
Sounds like she’s quite alientated.
Only thing that ever bothered me about I_Dig_Bad_Boys is her handle. An advertisement of ignorance.
As far as attention whorishness goes, I have nothing to say. The vast majority of my posts are in MPSIMS AKA Attention Whore Central.
Which is the worst thing for her right now. Her LJ hasn’t been updated yet, so if a few more days go by and nothing new, someone should send her an email.