If it matters any, I’ve been working too hard, been stressed out so much that I lost my baby a couple of weeks ago (it was early on, but still) and I think I’ve been in the dumps recently. That comment on LJ really and truly hurt my feelings and today all of my hurt and pain about my life right now just came gushing forward in a tide of woe is me.
I hope you see this as an explanation, not as an excuse. I guess there isn’t any. I am going to take a leave from the StraightDope and see if I can’t try to get back right with myslef so that this won’t happen again.
Sorry again,
I was serious about that LJ code, if you want one, please email me. It really does help to have an outlet so you don’t look like such an ass on the message board.
Kelli, Mind if I stick my foot up your ass? < I am seriously kidding > But if you don’t mind a boot up your ass, I could accomodate very easily.
Hell, I know what a fucked up person I was and I see the same thing happening to BBJ and I can tell you how much having an LJ has helped me out. She certainly has issues that are affecting her judgement. Anyone can go through this. Some, sadly, can’t be rehabilitated but I think BBJ can overcome this, if she wants to, and go on and be a member of the SDMB without too much fanfair or whatever.
I can thankfully tell you that I am no longer depressed so my interactions here are not as all-consuming as they were before. I still say stupid shit and I know that this is not the only board I am a member of and I got slammed tonight. Eh, as long as people have an outlet for when they are dealing with bullshit in their lives, chances are they are more likely to not do the shit I did back then.
Fortunately, I know this now. I just hope that BBJ takes up my offer to get a code from me so she can scream, wail and complain about life. Oh, and there’s an added bonus, you can also talk about your accomplishments and get a small ego boost, even if no one responds because you repeat that good thing and can read it to remind you that life isn’t all that bad.
Oh and I have no ill will towards anyone here. I know I can behave like an ass and I know a few that literally hate me here. But, I have gained a few close friends because of this board. Granted I have yet to meet them but someday I will meet them and beam about meeting them because they have stayed through my own personal dramas on LJ.
Anyhow, I made this post about me and I didn’t mean to but Kelli’s post made me think about what happened today and where I was two-three years ago. However, even if you have a drama on the 'net, you can get over it and push forward. Just like real life the only difference is this is recorded. But it can be overcome and well, I don’t think that having everyone on a message board to like you is that big a deal. Just like life, we don’t always charm people even though we think we might.
Oh get off your high horse, lez, some of us just saw this thread.
I accept your apology BBJ and am truly sorry about your loss.
I won’t pretend to tell you how to act or what to say here on the SDMB, but I can promise you that certain things will cause backlash - things like hateful remarks aimed at other people. Some of us don’t find cruel comments made about people you know nothing about to be either funny or witty. It is just assholish and you are going to get called on it by those who think so. If you don’t mind the backlash (and it certainly appears that you DO mind), think twice about what you are saying.
If you want to be known as the bubbleheaded bigotted bimbo, that is okay too, just don’t act so shocked when you are treated as such.
Again, I am sorry for your loss and maybe you really should consider getting a code from Techie.
Dunno what you are talking about - wasn’t there. But you have always been courteous in any thread I have seen you in. If you had a bad day, well, we all do. I see no problem.
BBJ I am sorry to hear of your loss. I hope that anything derogatory said on these boards will not affect you. It is amazing to me that there are posters who have 10,000+ posts who do nothing more than complain and bitch about life and how hard it is and they are treated with kid gloves, while you are attacked immediately for telling a story. For all those who claim that they care and understand, there are many who just want to judge and deride you. It is unfortunate that many will not take joy in what they have because they are too busy looking at their neighbor and wishing they were in their shoes. Too many people on this board feel that they have the right to judge others because they can not get out of their own self loathing long enought to have some empathy for anyone that they feel has a better genetic draw in life. Realize that those who continue to act in this way are most certainly miserable people who cannot accept themselves–just let it roll off your back.
Do not for one second imagine that post count had anything to do with the way that people reacted to the other thread. People can crry ‘post-count’ until they are blue in the face, that doesn’t make it true.
BBJ, I’m sorry you are under stress, and I’m sorry you lost the baby.
Ginger I was not suggesting that the reason that some posters were talked to better than others was soley on post count, but I am saying that there are several posters here that continue to post drivel and they are somehow respected just because they seem to have nothing going for them except for their prolific posting on this message board and the emotional support it may lend. This is a community and as such I would hope that we can overcome all physical differences. It just seems to me that because BBJ has been proud of her appearance in the past, she has gotten an unworthy amount of vitriol. Feel free to correct me, as I am rather new here. This is just my feel for the situation.
Diane This is a message board, and as it is such I chose to give a message to BBJ. While I realize that this an open forum and open to public fodder, it should be a forum for reasonable discourse. If you have a problem with the jist of my post, please try to dignify yourself by at least replying to me(or my post), rather than a not-so-subtle drive-by insult. These one sentence insults lend themsevles much better to a chat room.
I am not speaking for Diane but I think I speak for myself when I say, WTF are you trying to say?
Seriously?
I “think” Diane is asking you what your point is, which is not that clear other than making some point that those of us with experience on the SDMB seemingly are elitests assholes.
Well that’s what I took away from it.
Shit, my first SDMB experience was though a Pit thread…set me right up to deal with the stuff my SDMBers can dish out.
Deal with it. If you can’t handle the Pit, then get the fuck out and play in MPSIMS and IMHO.
Sorry but that’s the deal. Diane has a great way of insulting people without really insulting them…a thing I respect in her and I find completely hilarious. Those that are a part of her insults most likely don’t recognize it but this one, she wasn’t insulting you, she was talking truth. Get to know the difference. The woman spoke truth you boob.
This thread starts out wih a genuine apology, contains some expressed support but dribbles away into the same tired old tarts bitching at people who’ve been here less time than them.
Not the prettiest side of SDMB. Shame on you.
Redboss, driving by, never to return to this thread so don’t bother, girls!
Apology accepted. I am sorry to hear about your loss. Goes to show you never can tell what’s behind people when they post here. I’m southern born and bred and any thread, no matter who starts it, will get under my skin when I see white trash, trailer trash, etc. talked about. You never know a person’s background and it irks me when people are judged solely on appearance. As far as BBJ’s appearance goes, have no idea, doesn’t matter. That wasn’t the issue.
The LJ matter, well it was tacky to post bits and pieces from that. Especially when some of the bits were responses in other people’s journals. But it’s public info so that’s ok too. keturah posters on this message board are judged on their input, ideals, etc. not on the post count so you can drop that drivel. Each individual poster has a certain style of posting and after you’ve been here long enough and paid enough attention you’ll know how to react and realize that while some may be sarcastic or mushy or lovey-dovey or blunt…that’s just how they are and should be taken in that text. Don’t pass judgement until you have reached that point. BBJ take it all with a grain of salt. Most of us do.
I’m southern…not offended in the least by the WT comment.
Call me a snob. Say that you don’t view people by appearances but look at their lives, whatever… There are people who are trashy…regardless of their look.
To me the label of white trash doesn’t have to mean you live in a double wide and like NASCAR (Not All Southerns Care About Racing).
It is how you behave.
She apologized. Get over it. Stress can have it’s way with you sometimes.
