So here’s the scoop. I am in a sexless marriage, and it is killing me. Our third anniversary is coming up in November.
If you want me to, I can expunge further on how I got into this mess, and missed the warning signs. I’ll do that later if this thread takes off. But here I am, now.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my wife. It’s our marriage that is just a mess. We are like roommates that live together. In all of the platonic parts of a relationship, we are best friends.
Yes, we have done the counseling. We have done the fighting. I’ve done the book reading, but she refuses to, and gets mad when I nag her about reading a book about this problem. She’s very passive aggressive.
But I also am a great gift giver. I love giving gifts. I am known within my family of putting the extra mile into researching, picking up hints, searching, and producing the gifts that everyone talks about afterward.
So, my third wedding anniversary is coming up in November. My underlying gift giving genie is starting to go bonkers thinking of ideas. But I’m not sure that I want to give my wife a great gift. I don’t want her to erroneously think that suddenly everything is fine. I want to give her a gift the says, “Eh, so you’re my wife.” :o So that she will get the subtle hint. Just the fact that I didn’t go the extra mile will clue her in.
I’m not looking to purposefully make her mad, or gross her out. I’m looking for a gift that make her pause, and say, “Hmmmm. What exactly does he mean by that?”
I would think that females would have more creative input into this, so I’m encouraging ideas from both camps.
What should I get her?
Will presentation matter?