Hmmmm…didn’t think of that.
You mean, like that one who writes me about once a year? (To different emails he gets through common friends, and from different emails as well). Dude, it was ok and all, but get over me already, willya!
I’ll be interested to see if anyone comes in here and says “Actually, you know what? I did hook up with an old flame, and it was totally worth it!”
I can’t see it happening, though… 
Actually, I know two people in their 50s who hooked up with high school sweethearts and it’s all “happily ever after”.
My “whinin’” comment was made in jest. Yeah, this woman has been the model for every psycho-woman movie ever made, starting with “Play Misty For Me”. She had me in a stranglehold for two years before I managed to break free. It was like being in the thrall of some Freudian ninja master.
In my daughter’s case, I threatened the guy with a restraining order and charges of stalking if he didn’t lay off. Barring that, I was willing to fly to Seattle and administer some crowbar counseling.
A woman that I had dated over 10 years ago recently re-established contact last summer. She’s been married for 5 years now and I had just become single a few months before she got in touch with me.
One of the very first things i did was ask if I could meet her husband so I would be sure that everything was above board and she was fine with that.
Over the last year we communicate and get together fairly regularly and, so far, the friendship has been great. I guess we’re an outlier.
Fifteen years ago a woman came to work in my workplace. She had serial flings with half a dozen men, and flung herself at me as well, but I was pretty well immune to her, from having had two good friends hit bottom from being lied to, cheated on, and then had their most intimate confidences used as humorous gossip in the workplace. The woman was deeply psychotic. I, on the other hand had basically recovered from being psychotic. I was on to her.
I had lots of chances to talk with her, and she investigated me with every woman in the place, which was 85% female anyway. Flattery from this woman was an art form. She was determined to get to me emotionally, as she had done with so many other men in the place. I gave her the therapeutic and honest treatment. I never accused her of lying, but I always remembered each of the details of her pathological tall tales about her self. The stories were wildly inconsistent, and absurdly grandiose.
So, I simply made a habit of asking the normal questions one might ask if they actually believed the river of bullshit that came out of her mouth. “Did the girls get back in touch with you yet?” (The imaginary love children by Robert Plant) Well, how did the surgery go? (The separation surgery for the now 14 year old Siamese Twins) Is he (RP) still paying for them to come visit in the US after they recover? You know, I haven’t heard a thing about the new US tour.
The oddest thing was that my responses made me the closest thing she had to an actual friend. It was pretty sad. But, she told everyone we were sleeping together, and stole a book from me. (An 1867 edition of Paradise Lost!) Then she left town.
Last year, she calls the workplace, asks for three people who haven’t worked there in ten years, and then asks for me. I’m not there, so they ask for her name, and promise to tell me she called. I come in later, and fall on the floor laughing at the sound of her name.
She isn’t even my ex! I did answer when she called back, and asked her where my book was. She claimed not to remember any book. I asked her how the girls were doing. She hung up. I guess the surgery didn’t go well.
Tris
I’m a single guy and I wish for the day for the phone calls to start, let alone stop.
Start looking up your ex’s then. You have nothing to lose right?
Yeah, I just wanted to pop in and, well, fourth that guys to this just as often. I’m more than happy not speaking to my exes regularly (I get curious how they are doing and such, but I absolutely have no intention of contacting them), but every month or so, someone pops up. The one who recently got married is the most common offender.
In fact, I’ve yet to have an ex that hasn’t tried to get back in contact with me a few times.
Then again, I am that good :).
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