What the fuck would anyone care what you think are Board rules, since you clearly don’t give a fuck about the one about junior modding.
We have a specific rule (loosely enforced, but it exists) against posting in foreign languages. We do not have one against using acronyms. So fuck off with the false equivalency.
Well, I’m late to the party, but…
Count me as another who gets extremely annoyed by the “I DON’T KNOW WHAT THAT ACRONYM IS!!! YOU SUCK!!!” bombs mid-conversation.
When I don’t know, if I can’t figure it out from context, I look it up; if that was to be unhelpful, I would likely ask; I have never yet HAD to ask, because Google is pretty fancy at putting the world’s collective knowledge in front of me in an instant.
I don’t get the… anger? Irritation? You are going to just “nope” out of the thread because you saw a thing you were unfamiliar with? That I just don’t understand; from my perspective, I just learned that I didn’t know a thing, and thus had a little bit of my own ignorance that I needed to fight. Heck, just from this thread alone I’ve learned several new things… including that “FFA” isn’t common enough for all of you to know what it means!
I’m sorry that you are in pain, but it’s actually less typing to just say, “excuse me, what does FFA mean?” than it is to also complain to the poster about using acronyms. I urge you to try this. If you practice it, you might even find that practicing feeling less anger results in your actually feeling less anger, and might make you happier.
This!
That’s like saying, “please take your foot off mine” after they tread on it when what you really want to happen is to get the person to start looking where they’re walking in the first place,
Yes it is.
And if people keep mildly saying, “please take your foot of mine” the offender will notice that it happens a lot, and might even realize he should pay more attention. If, instead, you say, “fuck you, you are standing on my foot” the offender is likely to feel defensive, and be pissed at you for overreacting to his innocent mistake, and assume the fault is with you, not with him.
I think the first is more likely to get the results you intend.
The second is only appropriate if the person is intentionally stepping on your foot, and is looking for a fight. Even then, the first night work better. But the second would be appropriate.
To be fair, 957 once asked me simply what GR means when I replied to a thread about Aldi stores. The fact this was his only contribution to the thread, to ask what city GR is, it irked me. So I was intentionally vague in my reply and then he flew off the rails with additional snark.
It’s akin to correcting someone’s pronunciation mid sentence and derailing the thread of a conversation to dive headfirst into a rabbit hole about it. Rude, disrespectful and a convo killer.
First, I’m sorry you’re in so much pain, and you have my sincere hope that whatever’s causing you pain eases.
That said: there is a discussion we’re having here. It’s possible, I suppose, that everyone disagreeing with you is part of some sort of bizarre cult-like mentality that’s enjoying shitting on you, and that there are swarms of people who agree with you but are too cowardly to admit it.
But please, please entertain the possibility that so many people are disagreeing with you because you’re doing something rude and annoying.
Every time I saw you make a snotty comment about acronyms, I rolled my eyes and scrolled on. I never would have started a Pit thread about it, because the annoyance was minor–but it was definitely an annoyance orders of magnitude stronger than someone using an unfamiliar acronym.
It may be that your chronic severe pain makes you grumpy. Is that feedback you hear from folks in real life? They may be more tolerant of it because they can see the pain you’re in. Here, we can’t see. We can only see the crankiness and snotty comments.
Please stop.
I assure you, i am brave enough to be contrary and obnoxious on message boards. I even agreed with you upthread. I changed my mind as more details emerged, not because i didn’t want to buck the hive mind.
Why is this making you so angry rather than mildly irritated?
I missed the part about who made you judge, jury and executioner.
There is a proper method of handling this. Write your suggestion in ATMB and try to persuade others of your point of view. If a consensus occurs, then the mod will be in charge of enforcing the rule.
You sound unhinged here. You do not have some deep insight into human nature. You lack insight into your own behavior. You sound like a delusional stalker who is convinced that their victim really loves them.
Jesus Christ, what a lofty opinion you have of yourself. It isn’t justified.
Well, stop thrusting!
Yes, that’s not the first time I’ve had to say that (and thanks to waking up in a chandlery on the Côte d’Azur, I can say it in a local French dialect as well…)
Seriously, your metaphors are all fraught with emotion. “Thrusting”? “At my target”? You’re taking your self-appointed task of redeeming this message board far too seriously, and then taking it personally when people remind you that that’s not your job (oh, and you’re really bad at it, but that’s okay. You can let it go, let it go…).
So many wise people here have counseled you to say your piece, not get emotionally involved, then shut up. I’m so sorry for you, to see that you can’t do that.
Thank you. Looks like a good tool for a complete SDMB experience.
AFAIK, Milgram’s experiments were not about torturing, they were about people blindly following the directions of others—even to the point of (apparently) causing extreme duress to the experimental subject. Fundamentally his area of research concerned what could be termed “Toxic Conformity”.
Your posts in the QZ forum have been very helpful to me. Thank you. I have some huge decisions to make soon about how I might possibly get meaningful immune system protection from COVID even though I am on rituximab. I’m sure that conversation would benefit greatly with your participation.
I appreciate your constructive criticism. There’s always something to be gained from well-intended evaluation.
While I don’t agree with your assessment, I can see why you would feel that way. I think you are a good moderator and thank you for your contributions to the Dope.
Those are excellent positive methods. I have tried this approach many times but folks aren’t always that quick at picking up what you’re laying down.
CardboardBoxx– this is an succinct and elegant post. Thank you. And thanks for recognizing, in this and other posts, that this stuff is an issue on the Dope. Other people agree with you but don’t want to get into it.
And naturally, after this enlightening thread I don’t feel like getting into it anymore either. I still believe the issues that I bitched about are ones that negatively affect the discussion on the SDMB.
Ambiguity is never a good writing technique (other than in fiction?). I hope that folks here in this thread and Board-wide can separate their personal problems with me from their (everyone’s) desire to keep the level of discourse here as high as possible.
The thing is, we don’t. As others have said many times, Google or ask.
The pandemic has been really hard and the uncertainty that it presents to those with illness or disability doesn’t help. I urge you to take care of yourself and not spend your energy on this type of aggravation.
Waaay less than your pathetic wannabe-mod language trolling does.
It’s not really that they are “noping” out of a thread. Many times, it is their sole contribution to one.
Yes, but you are “asking” them to take their foot off of yours after you have gone to all the trouble of shoving your foot underneath theirs. They didn’t force you to read the thread, they didn’t break your google, nor your ability to inquire politely for clarification. You are not under assault here, so a hostile response is not warranted. It comes across as not looking for clarification, but looking for a fight.
Not really. Milgram’s was about following the directions of perceived authority figures, nothing at all about conformity.
The thing is, acronyms and initialisms are just words, like any other words. They carry meaning; they’re created to carry meaning; they become part of folks’ vocabulary.
Sometimes people invent a word on the spot to carry meaning. If I say that the bullet kapanged off Captain America’s shield, you probably know what I mean, because I invented an effective word and used it with sufficient context for an intelligent reader to understand. If I say that some of my students are bonatcherous, you probably don’t know what I mean, because I invented an ineffective word and used it with insufficient context.
Acronyms work just the same.
Someone might use an established word, or a neologism, that you don’t understand–and it may or may not be an acronym. The responsibility is neither unambiguously theirs nor unambiguously yours to bridge this failure of communication. If they’re doing it to be a dick, they’re being a dick. If they’re doing it because these words unfamiliar to you are familiar to them, consider whether you’re really an important part of their audience. Consider how important it is to you to understand them.
You’ve got a lot of tools if you want to understand their vocabulary. Being a dick is one of them, but if you choose that one, you’re being a dick.
Right, I wasn’t referring to ILMVI, but posts like this: