Alright, let me lay out some things.
Bro is (apparently) Catholic. This is his first remotely serious relationship (his others have been 2-weekers, with presumably no sex involved). This was quite clearly an accident, and while I trust my bro to have fun and good off, my (very educated) guess is that he didn’t even think about what he was doing.
In adittion, I may have been somewhat unclear about my feelings. I may very soon become an uncle. My family is very close-knit. Always have been. The thing I miss most is being close to my extended family. Mom, too. What does Bro do? He goes to colllege 1000 miles away. OK, not great, but we understand. Now this. Yeah, we’re blood relatives to the kid, and we don’t even know the mother. So yeah, that hurts. Me? I’ll get over it. I’m not angry at my bro, except that maybe he won’t be able to pay much child support right now.
Bro is not the kind of person to think about his actions. Ever. He just does (or doesn’t do) something. If he thought about it at all, it was probably to make an excuse. He’s definitely a live-for-today person. And it’s true don’t know the circumstances. Maybe they were drunk, or it was a moment of weakness. So I won’t be too hard on him for that. But he knew this girl in the region of two months before they slept together. Maybe that’s long enough for some of you. That’s awfully short where I come from.
If they had been married, no prob. If they even decide they didn’t care about getting married, I wouldn’t like it but fine. If they had even thought about what they were doing, then I still woulldn’t like it, but fine. But this is just like him: rush into something. But isn’t something which can just be “fixed.” Even if something happens and there’s no child, my bro still played recklessly with this future on a whim, and played with the rest of the family even if he didn’t realize it.
Unfortunately, he may not have said right. It depends on whether or not he gets visitation, and whether or not he wants it. And even if he does, we can’t travel 1000 miles easily or often, especially to meet someone we barely know. And moving is really not an option.