Bit of background:
My wife and her brother (also known as brother in law)were pretty much raised by their mom by herself. Their dad had an affair when mom still had brother in the womb and left her before she gave birth. The affair produced a half sister. Dad is back in their life again and things are for the most part OK now with that. He offered no support, financially, mentally, or physically, while the kids were growing up, but they are passed that now. They are adults, college educated, with families, or families on the way.
The Present:
Brother meets girl who’s from NY. She’s finally the one. They get married and decide to live here. Since she’s moving here the wedding is in New York. The entire family goes out there, including many from California. All is well. They move here, get a house, and a year later, she’s pregnant. just what they wanted.
Until a new co worker starts work at Brother’s workplace. They start talking. The marriage starts to stumble. Not that unsual, certainly workable. He assures everyone that nothing’s going on. Then he decides he’s not happy anymore and tells wife that he will divorce her after the baby’s born. He doesn’t want to get too attached to it. (He did use those words). Family is upset, they talk to brother. They agree to go to counseling. Counselor/Therapist suggests that brother is depressed and not thinking clearly. Suggests that because that’s what dad did, he thinks that’s what he’s supposed to do. Advises medication and sessions by himself. Brother says no way to therapy, there’s nothing wrong with him, that’s all bullshit. Whines that nobody sees his side of the story. We do see his side of the story but he’s still wrong. He wants someone to tell him that what he’s doing is OK. We hear rumblings that early on in the situation, dad told brother that he has to do what is best for him. He denies it but it’s totally something he’d say.
Because of the distance situation, the wife rightly decides to have the baby in NY since she’s not staying here. Legally it’s much easier to live in NY if that’s where the baby’s born. If it’s born here, she’d need his consent. Of course she has the total support of our family in that decision. We feel awful that it’s happening but we understand the reasoning and are helping to pay for her move. Brother in law still swears nothing is going on with co worker. Wife calls woman and asks that she not talk with brother so they can work out their problems properly, even if it means divorce. One day the wife is looking for the cell pohne bill. Can’t find it so she goes online and notices 45 calls made to her this month. Mother in law waits by co worker’s house until brother leaves. Confronts him, calls him a liar, a cheat, tells him that the women he’s seeing will never be welcome in her house or at any family functions. She’s a horrible example for her 3 children and is only looking for a father for her 3 kids. She couldn’t find a single guy, she had to break up a marriage. She tells brother that he’s cut out of the will. His share is going to their forthcoming child.
This whole thing sucks! Words cannot come to me to express what a low life piece of scum this is. To abandon your pregnant wife 2 months before birth just so you can boink some piece of trash. For God’s sake, give it a chance. Let the child know his father. We figured that of all people he’d never do something like this considering what his life was growing up. He has a completely loving family. His mother is a saint. She accepted her ex husband’s daughter, and my wife’s half sister, as her own daughter and never took anything out on her. She does not deserve this. My wife does not deserve this. Brother’s wife does not deserve this and most importantly, that child does not deserve this.
But who cares, as long as he’s happy! My wife has treated every child of our friend’s as if they were her niece or nephew, showering them with gifts, offering to baby sit whenever needed. Now she finally got a chance to have her own real niece or nephew to spoil rotten and he/she wont’ be around. My 2 year old son will not be close to his cousin.
Mother in law is blaming herself because she just went through double knee replacement surgery and thinks if she wasn’t going through rehab the last 6 weeks she might have been able to do something. The poor woman doesn’t need this. Nobody needs this.
Another thing that is crappy about this. The wife’s father was dying of cancer the past year and a half and she missed it all so she could be with the piece of shit. She missed him dying on his bed by 1 hour. She wasted 3 years of her life on this moron.
It stinks.