Yes, consequences. I’m a firm believer in consequences.
Here was my thinking, however.
Any employee that qualifies can come, and bring whoever they want, they just pay out of pocket for that person.
I told her earlier she can bring anyone along she wanted to this year-except Douche.
If this was next year, I probably wouldn’t care so much, bygones be bygones, we’re all adults, don’t hold a grudge, etc. etc—so Douche could come with.
So------who’s participating in this tug o’ war that puts her in the middle? Me, and Douche.
If I am ok with him coming with in a year, what changes about the situation except the passage of time?
He is her husband, how can I have other spouses with, and not him?
I decided to opt out of his funky game playing. If they don’t go, he can’t blame it on me-maybe she’ll get wiser to how he operates.
Am I happy about this decision of mine? Not at all. Do I feel like I’ve given in, that I am condoning this behavior. Yep, sure do.
But you know what? That’s kinda messed up thinking on my part. I’m her employer, she’s made her decision, and unless I am willing to fire her, I have to let it go.
*It was mentioned today that all her swimsuits were treated the same way as her underwear. Snip, snip.