Recently we were hanging out with my friend and his wife. His wife was venting about her job, which she had recently quit because it was “too stressful”. We were curious about it because she had only been working there for nine months.
She told us how all her coworkers were in this little clique; they all knew each other from high school. They were all single, lived in the city, went out and partied, and generally “acted like kids” as she put it. And they never, in nine months, ate lunch with her; never invited her to join them nor accepted any of her invitations. Nor did they seem to want to hang out with her outside of work. She felt like because she was married and at a different point in her life she wasnt able to fit in. After nine months, she got fed up and quit.
My wife and I had a little debate later about it. I gave my wife’s friend the benefit of the doubt and ran on the assumption she was being shunned. I thought how much it would suck to have
people shun you like that, particularly in a job where you have to work closely with coworkers.
But my wife, being the devil’s advocate, had a different theory. She thought my friends wife must have been rather insufferable to be shunned like that. She focused on the words and phrasing, and was rather :dubious: that if these coworkers were so immature (she kept referring them to ‘kids’ even though they were only 23 to her 25) why care they dont want to hang out? Why care they dont want to go to a ren fair when she has plenty of friends that go with her? My wife speculated that she was probably annoying the hell out her coworkers to the point they couldnt stand her.