Which would be great, if that’s all that was about.
My mother also has BPD. The few times we haven’t been able to visit her on her schedule, she takes it as a personal affront and accuses me of cutting her out of her grandson’s life, when nothing could be further from the truth.
As for getting along for the sake of getting along, sometimes you have to distance yourself from the people who hurt you for their own reasons. That’s a large part of why we live in PA and not in Texas.
Robin
After all, it’s all about you isn’t it?
No. It is all about the hungrey kids with no parents and no one to love them in a tiny, forgotten ghetto where the police won’t even go. It’s all about me having my shit together enough to make my one shot at asking the congregation for money to help these kids a effective as it can be.
It is also about how she is against the very idea of me going to help these children, considering it a waste of money and time better spent locally. She was so much against it that she concocted a phony story about me stealing from her so she could go to my pastor and tell him that I was not “right with God” so I should not be leading this effort.
Have you read the posts above about BPD? Do you have any idea what BPD is?
It has always been about the children in Costa Rica. She NEVER comes to my church for anything else. To notice her out in the congregation halfway through my presentation was disruptive, and she knew it. It is passive aggressive enough so that if I were to say anything to her she could feign innocence.
You are just what this thread needed. A fuckwit.
(bolding mine) I disagree, quite vehemently actually. At some point, a person’s weirdness is sufficient to deny access to their grandchildren. Especially if that weirdness transgresses values which a parent feels their children shouldn’t be exposed to. If a person’s weirdness starts flirting with dangerous psychotic behaviour, clearly, no grandchild on earth should be left in the care of such a grandparent.
Now, I’m not saying that grandma in this story is psychotic or a sociopath. She just sounds 95% righteous, and 5% compassionate. Still, her values are in sufficient conflict with the parent that I reckon the parent has the right to make a line-ball call on this one.
However, Lyn, I do agree that kids need as much love as they can get. Totally. But there’s healthy love, and there’s unpredictable love, and then there’s unhealthy whackjob love. The latter is the sort that no grandchild should have to suffer.
My husband’s parents started giving him cigarettes when he was 2 or 3 because they thought it was soooo funny. He was hooked before he was 10.
Some people don’t deserve the title “parents.”
I realize this has been addressed already - I’m using it to address the same point in a different way (not to pick on you, magellan). Most people want their parents and kids to share their lives in all ways. For newcrasher to not want his mom there, I would assume that there is plenty of back story and reasons for it, not him simply being a poop. If he’s saying she did it to be awful, I’ll take his word for it. He knows his family.
I don’t know what the point of your post was, Operation Ripper. What are you trying to say about newcrasher?