When that guy got home and saw his plate missing he probably said “OOOOOOOOOHhhhhhhhhh SHit” and then pooped his pants.
You still have not provided any evidence that this guy stomped on the gas with the meaning of killing her, or that it was anything more than a reckless accident, and very stupid on his part.
Choke your malice and thank whatever God you pray to that she’s okay, like the poster above me said. She is not badly hurt. She is ALIVE. Why waste your moments with her being angry at what could have happened? She might die tomorrow still, for cripe’s sake.
And stop talking about her “back starting to hurt again”. Your daughter’s lovely, perfect back does not fucking hurt more or less based on how angry you are with this jerk or with this world or with the insurance company. It has NOTHING to do with you, or this jerk, or anything but her body.
And if you want to go after this guy and be an asshole, that’s fine. But you’ll probably go to jail, missing out more time with your daughter. Do you realize how much of a wake-up call this is? And I mean that in a father-daughter relationship sense. Why are you spending all your time being angry over external things?
Let me repeat: her back pain does NOT increase or decrease based on your whims or emotions, or even if you think you are or are not getting enough money from this. Sometimes I think you’re putting money and your own happiness over your daughter’s health. Or that guy’s health, for that matter. He’s a living breathing person to you know. You know nothing about his life, nothing at all, except that he made two very bad mistakes – he hit her, and he fled. You make his life hell and you might just be making his family’s life hell. And they don’t deserve your righteous wrath, even if he might.
I’m trying to be nice here. I really am. I wanted to post a few days ago, but I bit my tongue. Your daughter is alive! Why are you not celebrating?! Why are you so bent on making this guy’s life (illegally or legally) hell, when you could be holding her, and loving her, and just watching her from afar, knowing that she is still alive for one more day?
Yes, he deserves punishment. That’s why we have a justice system. Yes, your daughter deserves your attention even more now, that’s why she has you, her loving, caring Dad.
/Shadez
Bravo, Shades.
Exactly.
A few years ago my 10 year old little brother was riding his bicycle on a quiet side street with my (at the time) 13 year old little brother. (My dad remarried so we have the older kids and the younger kids). An elderly woman saw him, panicked, hit the gas instead of the break, lost control, swerved and hit him - bumper to the head.
(insert public service announcement regarding the importance of bike helmets)
He died immediately in front of his brother.
We went through the insurance nightmare, but it was nothing compared to the nightmare of burying someone you love, especially when that someone is a child.
The guy fucked up and will be dealt with by the justice system. As for you, take it as a wake up call that every single day counts. Don’t make those days be filled with bitterness and hate.
Shadez and Diane, those are excellent, excellent posts. When I read the OP, my first impulse was also “Waitaminnit - your daughter’s okay, and you’re still in here ranting and raving? Why isn’t this a “Thank God my daughter wasn’t hurt” post?”
I understand your anger and frustration, clothahump, but some perspective probably wouldn’t hurt. Is your anger making your life better?
(And my deepest, sincerest sympathy, diane. I lost a sister, too, and the pain gets better but it never goes away. It’s like there’s a little part of me just missing.)
In looking at my post, I made a stupid error. I was sidetracked by a big dog with a squeak toy - driving me nuts! - I said he was 10 years old, he was not, he was 7. It happened 10 years ago. I can’t believe how fast the time has gone.
Thank you. My dad and stepmom have a room in their home decorated in angels, photos and paintings of my little brother, a couple of small sofas, and a bookcase. It’s a good place for them to “sit” with him. It does get better as time goes by, but even after a few years you will see or hear something and think, “Hey, he would love that!”. They never really leave you, neither does the hurt.
I am so sorry about your sister. I know first hand just how hard it is.
Yesterday, I got to attend her high school graduation. When I think of how close that came to being her funeral instead, it gives me chills.
And I am greatly saddened by the people who have responded saying that I should not be interested in making this asshole’s life hell for a while. All the little shit got was a couple of tickets. That’s not enough. We will be meeting with the district attorney’s office later this week to insist that charges be filed for the hit and run.
Am I vindictive? Perhaps, especially to the liberal twits who think that no one should have to accept responsibility for anything. But my daugher deserves better than to have someone nearly kill her and then just get a traffic ticket for it, and I plan to see that she gets it.
As far as I am concerned, this thread is closed. If a passing mod would be so kind…?
Of course you should go to the fullest extent of the law to get some justice. I think what we’re trying to say is maybe you should focus more on gratitude than anger and revenge, for your own peace of mind. Your call, of course.
Nice straw man, dickhead. No-one was protesting against asking the authorities to take appropriate action against this guy. People were protesting against the implied violence and illegality in some of the sutff you appeared to be contemplating.
So, you open a thread about your daughter’s accident, and get a whole lot of sympathy and advice from a bunch of people, many of us “liberals.” Then, when you start acting like a vengeful jackass and people tell you to calm down and be a bit more rational about it, you dismiss everyone who criticizes you as “liberal twits” and ask for the thread to be closed. You’re not only a moron, you’re apparently a coward who can’t handle criticism.
I wish your daughter all the best. She probably needs it with an asshole like you for a father.
I understand the sentiment, Clothahump. If someone even came close to hurting one of my kids, I would probably come unglued.
If there are any legal avenues to be pursued, do it. Absolutely.
The whole kneecapping thing? Well, no shit, who wouldn’t fantasize about that? But fantasy would be as far as it went. And I don’t know you, but I’m sure that you don’t spend every waking moment being a bitter bastard! 
Calm understanding comes with time, especially when your child was put in danger.
I tend to vent on my boards, but most people don’t make the mistake of assuming my whole character based on some emotional posts.
Your daughter doesn’t deserve anything but an apology and recompense for damages.
You don’t really even think she does. You’re not thinking about what she “deserves”. You’re just an angry fucker who’s looking for targets. Grow up, and grow some balls. Do something useful and satisfying with your own life and you won’t have to fill it with looking for people to hate.
Jackass.
Your statement was quite clearly a threat of committing fraud against an insurance company, with an implied threat of a possible lawsuit. Feel free to explain how what you said could meant else.
Your statement does seem a bit odd coming from someone who thinks tort reform is needed to protect corporations and their insurers against people who actually suffer things like third degree burns caused by continuing to sell products that are known to be harmful.
I’m unaware of Clothahump’s position on tort reform, but if he’s being hypocritical about the issue, he’s not the only one.
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