I initially got the impression that they were worried they weren’t capable of protecting the girls enough. But on further reading it seems the complaint is mainly that they blocked the view with their ugly.
As a woman who has worked in strip clubs, I’d have been concerned by it for the first reason. In the [topless only] club I worked at for the vast majority of my time in that industry, we had awesome bouncers (technically, “doormen”). They were big, tough, muscly dudes in tuxedos, they were very respectful of the girls, and they treated all of us like they were our big brothers. Guy got out of line, they dragged his ass out and fast. I liked knowing that if a guy tried anything, that there was sufficient athleticism in the bounce staff to deal with the situation. I would have been very uncomfortable if the bouncers were as the OP described. I never would have worked in a club that allowed the guys to touch the girls*, mind you, so I expect that the bouncing requirements would be different (I had a bouncer once drag a guy out of his chair backwards because he slapped my butt, for example, which would seem to be totally allowed at the place in the OP).
(Oh, and I know plenty of guys with perfectly happy girlfriend/wife situations who will go to a strip club with the guys once in a while for the hell of it. It doesn’t say anything about what they do or do not have at home.:rolleyes: Hell, I’m a woman and I still think they’re fun to go to every once in a while.)
*“my” club also didn’t have private or semi-private rooms of any kind.
Eh, I got the impression that the bouncers were these big blobs of humanity in white t-shirts (XXXXXXL) standing right next to the stage, blocking one’s view of the talent (or at least “catching one’s eye” constantly). I haven’t seen anything like this personally, but I can picture it.
I couldn’t agree more. Normally I’m not a fan of “me too” posting, but I felt like the dissenting opinion needed a show of support, and really, I couldn’t have said it better.
That’s an awesome story, and a reminder that we need not fit the stereotypes on beer commercials to be men.
Oh, come on. If even a simple majority of men had any desire to go to strip clubs regularly, there would be several times as many of them around as there are now. You and I and Jamaika and everyone else all know that’s not what he meant, either, so quit playing dumb.
That ship has sailed, smart guy- it was a temporary riff on both of us making grander statements than were required.
And, if you’d go back and look at my point without your shrillglasses on, the point is that sometimes, be it in a cigar-smoking club or a dive or a strip club, men appreciate the relaxation of social strictures. There’s nothing wrong with that, either, and a lot of the hostility in threads like these tends to come from three things:
We who admit it are expected to feel bad about that.
Those who claim to feel no need for that insist that they are “pressured” to act the knuckle-dragger by those who admit they do.
We who admit it vigorously resist being classified as uncivilized, because we are not uncivilized.
And y’know, sometimes it’s just fun to get in contact with your Inner Caveman, especially if that’s not the real “you.” It can be fun to play dress up sometimes without ones SO giving you the evil eye.
Don’t strain your eyes. The remark made was directly in response to this post, in which wives “nag because of a crumb on the floor” and don’t show their husbands any empathy or understanding yada yada yada. If you want to go to a strip club with your buddies, okay. Just be man enough to admit you want to go look at naked women. You’re a GUY! It’s expected. At least until your pulse stops, and maybe not even then. Don’t use some hackneyed excuse about what your wife isn’t in order to justify doing it. At that point, honesty has left the building.
Wow, can you ever not read.
The point of my post was that when you go to the strip club, it’s ALL roses and NO real life concerns. Because that’s what men pay for.
News flash, Maureen, it’s NOT just about the naked women. It’s always SOMEWHAT about the naked women, and most times it’s SIGNIFICANTLY about the naked women, but all the time, it is to a significant degree about us being the center of attention and all that attention being positive.
We know we’re paying for that and we don’t care.
But your post only reinforces why men go to strip clubs and why men are shamed into pretending it’s something to hide. It’s not about the “wives being evil” because it’s NOT ABOUT YOU.
Sometimes when people want something, it’s not because the thing we already have is bad, it’s because we just want it.
