First let me day this is entirely hypothetical. It’s um…research for a book or something. Any resemblance to persons real or fictional blahblah.
So in the book, her curiosity having been piqued by strip club scenes in TV and movies, the protagonist’s partner has expressed interest in visiting a gentleman’s club.
Protagonist isn’t a connoisseur by any stretch, and hasn’t been to one in probably 13 years. Nobody would be getting lap dances or anything, just a trip to have a couple of drinks and check out the scene.
Anyway, hoping to round out the chapter by getting anecdotes or advice about similar situations.
Hypothetically, and why are we doing that again, Mr Sun and I visited such an establishment before the kids were born. I got in free.
The part that squicks me out even now was the ginormous fat guy who sat down next to me and then got a lap dance. Honey, we don’t know each other, and I don’t want to share that moment with you. So, DH and I moved.
Otherwise, it was fun. I think the girls thought it was kinda fun or cute or something to have a young couple in the place. I’d say pick a classier joint, “for the book”, and go for it.
ETA: And what’s the point of your book if they don’t do any lap dancing or something ! Do the protagonist and his, uh, “guest” get to visit the VIP room?
I have only been in a few strip clubs but all of them have had some couples there. The one I have been to the most always has couples there. It is kind of like a Mad Men/mafia hangout with a restaurant and an exclusive club upstairs and some people just really like the atmosphere.
I don’t think there is anything unusual or special about couples going to most strip clubs even if neither one of them is interested in lap dances or even watching the dances. Some of them just have nice bars and ALL women in them are even more protected than they would be at a normal bar just because of the nature of the place. You know that no sleazeball is going to hit on your wife or girlfriend if you go to one because it isn’t allowed and there are too many other diversions around.
Some women like going to the classier ones just to talk to the dancers about their outfits or watching their pole dancing routines. All successful strippers are friendly and easy to talk to without any pretenses. Some people, both men and women, really enjoy that.
Going to a strip club to “have drinks and check out the scene” is a major faux pas, if you are not dropping money on the girls you are basically wasting everyones time.
I’ve been to strip clubs. It’s not common but you will sometimes see wives or girlfriends there. I think that either it’s a couple that’s interested in getting a little kinky or it’s a woman who wants to be reassured about how far things go in a strip club.
There is absolutely nothing that I wrote that was controversial, false or hard to believe in that post plus you made an uncalled for reference that is also not false but harder to prove. Do you really think I have never been in a strip club in my life? Almost every professional man has because that is what other people’s expense accounts are for. If you haven’t, I am sorry that you were denied that experience because they can be fun and there are no shortage of non-dancing women or couples in any of the ones I have graced my presence with. I am sure it is different for the really seedy ones but that is not what I am referring to and I have never been into one of those.
I never liked strip clubs that much in general but I have a close friend is a serious strip club aficionado. He travels the country trying to find the good ones and hopes to own a great one or write a guide book about the ones across America someday and he is well on his way. I didn’t want to go to any regular one but there is one in nearby Providence, RI (Desires if you want a specific location) that is very large and has both a great strip club on the lower level and a private club upstairs with an annual monthly fee as well as a decent restaurant. I have only gone as a guest but there are always couples in the lower level and more in the upper level. It is basically like a modern day Playboy club and nothing more. Besides the dancing, it is basically just like a regular bar with more supervision and nudity. The bartenders and waitresses do not strip and you better not ask them to either unless you want to get thrown out. Men in strip clubs tend to follow a very strict etiquette that is even more reserved than regular bars oddly enough.
There are couples galore on both the upper and lower levels. They have mostly female staff even among the non-strippers but also many huge goon bouncers that will screw up your life if you do anything to offend any woman in the building.
Every couple I ever saw was just about enjoying the drinks and watching exotic dances or getting dinner and playing pool upstairs. Nobody batted an eye because there are always plenty of non-dancing women around as well. It is no different than any other bar other than the security for the dancers.
That is their risk. As long as you buy drinks and treat it like a regular bar or restaurant, that is your prerogative. It is their job to be good enough to make many people pay for extras but no individual person in obligated to. As long as you pay your share, you are just helping to fill out the crowd. It is absolutely no different than any other business in that regard. They design the model. The customers themselves decide how they will respond to it economically.
My boss had her going-away party at the local strip club (which is not a high-class joint, though at least it’s cleaner than many small town strip clubs. Both my boss and her wife received lap dances, sometimes simultaneously. That’s actually the most fun I’ve ever had at a strip club; thirty or so of us who’d normally never attend one drinking, admiring the pole-dance routines, and the reasonably priced beer with a pretty good microbrew selection*. And yes, we tipped all the strippers for their pole dances, so their time wasn’t wasted.
*I realize that sounds sarcastic, but honestly, it wasn’t half bad.
My understanding is that strippers typically don’t like wives or GF’s going as they tend to inhibit the liberal spending of money. Otherwise it’s actually quite common to see couples at classier joints particularly on weekends.
I recently went with my wife, her close friend, her husband and her closes friend’s ex-girlfriend and wife. We went to the Pink Monkey in Chicago
A very awkward experience but that had nothing to do with the club or the strippers.
It’s still rude to go into a place of business to waste everyones time. If you have no interest in spending time/money on the girls they never had a chance with you anyways and there is no reason at all to be there. It IS different than any other business because the girls have to pay to be there, and people do get thrown out when it becomes obvious they only came in to look and not spend.
I don’t go to strip clubs, although I would be willing if the opportunity presented itself. If I did go, it would be to look at the naked women. Isn’t that the point? Extras are fine, but I don’t believe required or expected. But, as I said, I’m no expert.
