You don’t like Valentine One?
Okay, ‘hobbyist’, is hilarious!
Ha Ha Ha!
Thanks for the grins.
Ima be giggling about this all day! 
There’s a whole set of terms and acronyms used in the “hobby” that would make you giggle
Back in the day, escort services were predominantly featured in the yellow pages of the phone book. It was a transparent fiction - the service provided you with a dinner companion and if you and the girl decided to work out a private arrangement for other services, that was none of the escort service’s business.
I guess my question for the OP is — Have you thought about seeking help or at least examining the underlying issues that compel you to engage in this behavior? Because it is an addiction. And it’s going to escalate again — right now you’re like the alcoholic that’s managed to control his drinking by only having three beers a day for the past month. You’re a slip waiting to happen.
And he even admits it’s not about the sex, it’s more about the thrill of the chase. Or compulsion, I think.
It’s not going to end well.
His SO may catch him. He might be “outed”, Ashley Madison style. He might be robbed or assaulted by one of the sex workers. Or one of them may accuse him of assault. Someone may find out and attempt to blackmail him.
And even if none of the above happens, a sexual addiction is not compatible with a healthy relationship. Addictions are limprisoning. They dictate the terms or your other relationships, your travel, your lifestyle. The thrill of the secret and the fear of getting caught out co- opt the healthy parts of the brain. Sexual addictions are particularly destructive to healthy sexual relationships, the two just can’t exist side by side.
And I think davidngrk may be starting to realize this. It may be what lead him to post here instead of in a specialty forum where everyone is just reinforcing the idea that this behavior is normal.
Or maybe he’s just stealth bragging. Or just bragging.
How much was Stormy Daniels?
Did you know, or have reason to believe, that some of the escorts were being coerced into prostitution? If so, did it trouble you or did you rationalize that too?
Let’s hear some more.
Do you think that you ever had sex with a man that you thought was a woman? Would it bother you if you have? Do you think that all the prostitures you had sex with were doing it of their own free will?
Good point and something to think about. Years ago I read an excellent book about the legal brothels in Nevada and the thing that struck me the most was that pretty much every woman that worked there had been coerced to some extent by a husband or boyfriend that they were supporting.
Also, the women work on contracts and they are virtual prisoners during the term of that contract. They are required to live on premises. They are billed for food ( different brothels handled this differently, some were pretty loose, other places billed every bite they ate at restaurant prices). If they really need to leave the premises they have to pay an expensive escort ( a different kind of escort, obviously ). They are not allowed to keep any personal possessions under lock and key and all of their sessions are recorded ( audio only)
The purpose is to ensure that the girls remain disease free and don’t use the job as a cover for other illegal activities such as drug-dealing. But it’s still disempowering.
A elderly man goes into confession and says to the priest,
“Father, I’m 80 years old, married, have four kids and eleven healthy grandchildren, and last night I had an affair with two 18 year old girls. I made love with both of them… twice.”
The priest said, “Well, my son, when was the last time you were in confession?”
“Never Father… I’m Jewish.”
“So then, why are you telling me?”
“I’m telling everybody!”
In seriousness, I find this thread fascinating. I wonder who these people are that keep sex workers employed. Who would choose that? Obviously, a lot of people! It’s so far from my experience that I just don’t get it. Sure, this is just one man’s story, but it’s a data point.
It’s the oldest profession.
I thought being a lawman was the oldest profession?
It was a thrill…right up til you orgasm. Then you are filled with shame and self-loathing. Right? And these feelings of self hatred help propagate a downward spiral that becomes a vicious cycle that just compounds the shame and secrecy and gives you a sexual identity that is deeply unhealthy. Which just keeps everything going. Does that sound about right or am I grasping at straws?
But we’ll always have Paris.
Regards,
Shodan
I never got the vibe there was a “pimp”. I was smart and researched who I saw. I actually got to know a few of them. Most were independent. Some of the seasoned escorts this was there career and actually enjoyed it they said. They screened who they saw.
I used a service a few times and everything went thru “steve” as he (or she) scheduled things, did screenings, etc and I am sure got a cut. The girls with that service were pretty normal girls - good looking, no evidence of drugs.
I won’t lie tho, a few had a boyfriend that would wait out in the car at the hotel. They even said that was their boyfriend. I never had any interaction with the boyfriends. My guy tells me the couple had a drug problem and that’s how they made money.
It does matter because these are terms that dehumanize these women and enables exploiting them. As others have asked, have you considered that some of your “providers” were doing this against their will? How can you live with that?
Greek = anal
bbbj cim nqns - bareback bj, c*m in mouth, non quit non spit
Pop = orgasm
Never ever with a man. I didn’t pick up street prostitutes. I did research on who I saw. There are different sites you can read reviews on escorts.
I never once got the impression they were being forced to do it.
Lol! The myth of the “happy hooker”. Lemme guess, they were paying for college? I’d say that upwards of 90% of the hookers you paid for were doing the deed to pay for s habit. Think about it, what would compel a pretty young girl to indiscriminately suck some random guy’s dick for $30 (or 40 or 50 or 60 or whatever) other than severe desperation?
The sex and orgasm were never great. I did like quite a few of the bjs.
The thrill of the chase was intoxicating. Chase being researching, contacting, meeting. Then being in the same room and undressing a hot 20-something (I was 40’s) and feeling her perfect body was incredible. I would have never been with these type of hot (“civilian”) girls when I was 20-something. Now I am 40-something, a little overweight, balding and with a 22 year old 105 lb hottie. But the actual sex usually mechanical and void of passion. Felt empty afterwards.