I guess you’d have to define “against their will”. While sex trafficking does happen, the prevalence of it in this country is overstated. Its much more likely, incidentally, to be found in the Asian massage parlors than anywhere else.
Now, does being addicted to a substance and being compelled into sex work in order to support that habit count as against their will? Idk, that’s a little more complicated. That addiction is often exploited by pimps and “boyfriends” so I guess the answer is “it depends”.
OP, you say you were addicted to hookers but are no longer so. What about your habit made it an addiction and what steps did you take to overcome this addiction?
The addiction was just the whole process from start to finish. Also, I was rarely with hot girls when I was young. I dated, slept with some good looking and maybe one hot girl but a lot of the girls I hooked up with weren’t not all that good looking. In the “hobby” the girls I saw were young, petite little body and hot. It was surprisingly easy to get the urge, research if it was someone new, contact and go have sex with a hot girl.
I still get the urge every so often but haven’t acted. I am in new city is one reason. It is harder to find good providers at a decent rate. 2 - I did catch warts once and obviously want to avoid that. 3 - most importantly I am seeing a girl I really love. I don’t want to risk losing her.
If the whole process isn’t causing you problems in one or more areas of your life that, once recognized, you are unable to curtail, you aren’t addicted. That’s what separates abusing a substance (in your case it’s sex/sex workers) from addiction to said substance.
That being said, I wouldn’t be so quick to dismiss addiction if you are continuing to engage with sex workers (hj or whatever) in secret. If you really love this girl you are seeing not only do you need to stop removing her consent from sex with you (stop the massage parlors), you need to step up and come clean. Let her make her own choices, right now you are not letting her do so. You are being selfish and cowardly.
Sex work in the West seems solely like a refuge for the damaged. Many have survived severe traumas and other forms of sexual exploitations which drive them into the work. How does one look past that damage, to buy into a thinly veiled facade of happy go lucky, clean and sober, uncoerced ho?
I’m sure there are plenty of customers who want a girlfriend experience and would be thrilled if she wanted to hang out and play video games afterwards.
I used to eat at a chinese restaurant who was raided by immigration because some of the workers were being trafficked to work in food service. Are people supposed to stop eating at restaurants now too because a small number of waiters are being trafficked? There is human trafficking in agriculture too. People think human trafficking only involves sex, but that is a tiny part of it. Lots of human trafficking is involved in food products. Have you stopped eating yet?
Why can’t adults engage in prostitution? Nobody wants sex trafficking, that is why various nations are pushing for legalization or decriminalization so women can ask for help if they feel they are being mistreated or abused.
Good lord! In all my years here on the Dope, I don’t believe I’ve ever seen so much ignorance in one thread. And the fact that so many of you seem intent on snarking rather than learning on a board whose mission charter to fight ignorance is mind boggling.
It’s not always a facade. I know of at least one provider that is a CPA. She owns her own (CPA) business. She owns a home which I haven’t seen but I’m sure is nice. She owns a posh condo which she uses for her clients for both her CPA and her provider business.
Oh, and get this: That expensive condo is a tax write off. Lol.
It’s not my thing, but if it gave the OP satisfaction, who am I to judge? Sounds like his marriage was already dead and this was just getting on to the next phase in his life. Sounds like he knows that he’s with someone he values and that escorts are not worth it for a number of reason. The thread seems like a diary thread, not really an invitation to question or judge.
OP, gotta know when to hold em, when to fold em. That is the only “advice” I have. Carry on with whatever you intend to do next.
What would compel a pretty young girl to clean out shitty bathrooms in a fast food restaurant for $30 or $40 or whatever other than severe desperation?