I’m sensing an untapped Halmark card market here.
That’s the thing. She’s not going to give up her accustomed lifestyle, and I wouldn’t expect her to. Otherwise I would have been very interested in her.
I’m not into sex as a recreational hobby. It might be fun on occasion, but I know I wouldn’t like it as a lifestyle choice.
I’m still pondering the opportunity to experience this one though. Kinda weird, but it’s not like these offers come up all the time. Well, at least not for me!
I need clarification here.
You said ‘no’ and they proceeded with their sexy fun and then after it was over with, you walked the lady home and then proceeded to exchange a passionate kiss?
If so a couple of questions:
What were you doing while they had their fun?
You kissed that girl. Do you have any idea where her mouth has been? (Recently)
No, no no. They didn’t proceed with anything. I declined and we all just stood around and talked for another hour or so, debating the whole situation. They totally understood my apprehension and were very supportive. There was a lot of flirting going on and the women kissed each other for a bit.
Sizzling hot to watch.
As a newly single guy, who hasn’t had a good lay in wayyy toooo long (even pre breakup), let me just say this thread is a bit hard to read.
Think about what you are going to be thinking about on your death-bed. “Phew, glad I missed out on that orgy that involved that petite, smart, pretty woman I really quite like”. I know, I know, it’s not so simple, but life is too short to have regrets about things you haven’t done.
I agree with Gagundathar and Baron Greenback. I am baffled by Leaffan’s decision.
I’m not. If you’re not comfortable with it, don’t it. While I’ve never been asked to participate in a four-way, I’m not sure I would be able to do it. Maybe if I were drunk enough, or really wanted to put a notch on my “experiential” belt. I don’t know. But plenty of people don’t swing that way, and it’s pretty normal (I think) to be uncomfortable with the proposition. I also can’t do one-night stands with somebody I literally just met. I’ve been propositioned a couple times when I was younger, but it all felt very “off” to me. It’s just not the way I’m wired.
“Do not be too timid or squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more you make, the better. So what if your coat gets soiled or torn? So what if you fall and get rolled up in the dirt once or twice? Up again, you shall never be so afraid of a tumble.” - Emerson
I live my life by this quote. Different strokes, I guess.
Sex with more than one partner just doesn’t interest me; there is just too much going on and too much to try to pay attention to. I don’t even like 69, for much of the same reason. I’ve tried a three-way once, years ago, and it was just discombobulated.
Yeah, tell me about it.
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Yeah, I hear you. The door’s still open for me; they made that clear.
The thing is, I told myself I wouldn’t run off and do anything regretful after separating from my wife: no tattoos or sleeping with 25 year old waitresses or getting involved in a rebound relationship.
Also, I’m not a male slut. I do have some standards. Well, I might end up capitulating, but I’d like to think I made the decision rationally, and not on a whim after 8 beers.
I’m funny like that.
It does sound exciting though.
Yeah, reasonable objections. My problem would be more with the friend. I don’t think I could ever look a friend in the face again after having sex with/on/near them. I’m still under 30 and never-married, so maybe my answer would be different with more maturity and life experience. But if a guy is propositioned for kinky sex and says no, that doesn’t make him less of a man. The cultural meme that men are walking testosterone-bots is baloney.
That said, by all means avail yourself, but only if you feel comfortable. 
Or hey, maybe they’d just let you watch. That could be fun.
My advice is to drink seven beers and flip a coin.
I was having group sex (about 10-12 guys) until I met my partner, who was in the same group. Now we’re both monogamous for 25 years, and neither of us would go back to that sort of thing. Not that I think it’s wrong; for some people it’s a necessary step in their sexual development. But most people get past it and settle on just one partner.
Anyway, if we hadn’t been doing that, we probably never would have met.
I agree. Leaffan should hold off until things reach double-digits.
So, what do you have against 25-year-old waitresses?
Well, I’m 50, so ya know. Hey Nineteen that’s 'Retha Franklin.
One thing that stands out for me in the OP: He says he’s recently separated. Which implies not yet divorced. That puts him in a somewhat complicated situation right now, relationship-wise, and starting up another relationship right now, even a relatively vanilla one, would just make things more complicated.
Now, some people might like complicated, but it’s at least something to be aware of.