In a shocking turn of events, I am actually going on not only a date with a cute girl, but a second date, no less!
The first date was your typical dinner and a movie fare, so I’d like something different for this one, but cant’ think of anything. I have the advantage that I already knew this girl before I started going out with her (if you must know, she’s my friend/roommate’s sister…his little sister, and in case you’re wondering, yes, it’s fairly awkward.) The only thing I can think of is bowling, cause I think she likes bowling. One of the problems is that she’s only 20, so we can’t go anywhere that cards for entry (for instance, there’s a club downtown that has an 80’s night on Fridays that she might enjoy, but not being 21, she can’t get in.)
So what the heck do people do when they go on dates?
You could go night skiing together. Adrenaline filled date activities are good because the activity will get her revved up and sometimes a little scared which her girl brain will confuse with being in love lust with you. If she isn’t a great skier, take her on a slope that is beyond her ability and “rescue her” as needed. This is a genuine technique by the way and, done correctly, will work so well that you better decide if you are ready to unleash that monster.
Unfortunately, you have several things limiting your choices, not the least of which is your date’s age. I never understood why the drinking age is 21, anyhoo. You also live in VT, and it’s winter, which kinda curtails outdoor activities considerably.
Although…
How about sledding? Do you have snow right now? If you enjoy winter-type stuff, that’s a fun time. Any lighted sledding hills around? Or do the local ski resorts have hills for that purpose?
Bowling’s good, though. Many bowling centers have “cosmic bowling” on the weekends–flashing lights, loud music. Club atmosphere without getting carded.
Or try a different type of restaurant, then go to a coffee bar and just sit and talk–get to know each other a little more.
Well, despite veing VT in December, we are snowless. Yeah, most ski areas make their own snow and have a few trails open, but seeing as I don’t own ski equipment, and have only been a few times before, that’s not a great idea.
Hmmm…Montreal isn’t too far away, and she has expressed interest in one day going to strip club, but I’m fairly certain she’s working that night till 8 or 9, so that limites the amount of time we’ll have up there, add to that the fact that it would cost a lot of money, and I’m a poor graduate student, means it’s probably a no-go. Certianly a goog suggestion for the future, though, say after I get that big, fat, check from financial aid next semester.
It’s our boldness and willingness to buck social norms that makes us so well-suited for the job. Plus we have a lot of free time since we never do well on second dates for some reason.
Ooooh. Well, that might have to wait, too, since so far the regualr sex is…let’s see, how to put this delicately…“uncomfortable” for her. Now, I never considered myself that large down there, and I’ve neverh ad this problem before, but so far the sex has had to be quite slow and steady, and pretty much just missionary (I haven’t even tried from behind, since, in general, that’s the position that, if there were to be discomfort, that’s where it’s most likely to had, and she already has discomfort in the regular positions!)
Montreal is defo the place to go. Skip the strip clubs, though. They are pretty low rate over there.
Pity that it is so late at night. Picnic by the shores of Champlain lake is a total heart winner. Walking Church street and sneering at all the posers over there is a lot of fun but doesn’t last long. The Champlain islands have several fascinating spots if you are planning a day thing.
Gliding over by Sugarbush is a great adrenaline date if she lasts until summer. They are closed for the winter unless you have very serious contacts at the airstrip (gliding in winter means you drop through and the flight is pretty short but the views are spectacular and it is unnaturally quiet, very romantic)
Anyhow, considering that you have no time to prepare and how late she gets out, just go to the Vermont Pub & Brewery and pour Snakebites on her until she is ready to reconsider the in/out situation
Your sequence of courtship differs significantly from the handbooks I have. Step one is go on a first date and be a gentleman whether you really are or aren’t. Step two is to go on a deliberate and special date planned with the help of people like us.
However, it seems like you started on steps 10 and up and you are working your way back down. You already know her political stance on inholes and outholes which should clearly be a few steps away.
Bowling it is. I stopped by where she works this afternoon and had a chat with her, and mentioned it, and she said she loves it, but sucks, so we’ll be in the same boat.
And the drinking age is 18 there, so another problem is solved. Still, if you don’t have the time or money to go to Montreal, then Sydney may be right out of scope.
dude, you are the luckiest man on earth. You know the girl’s take on all different sexual positions on the first date and she wants to go bowling for a second date. Maybe for the third date you can just run into her at the supermarket and get her phone number.
