…would men still prefer to live with women and women with men? Is there something about the opposite sex that has an attraction beyond the erotic attraction?
I think most people would say there is - say, women might appreciate “strength” or something like that, and men might like “graceful” or “delicate” or whatever, and others along similar lines (I hope not to quibble about particular examples). But the question is if the appeal of these characteristics are merely a product of the sexual aspects which color judgment of other aspects (it is obvious - to me at least - that sexual attraction has the capacity to do this on an individual level), or if their appeal is independent of the sexual.
I should stress that I am not trying specifically to make a point about homosexuality here. But this does appear to have some bearing on the general issue, and I bring it in for this purpose. Because if the non-sexual appeal is independent of the sexual, then that would mean that gays who prefer the companionship of the same gender differ from straights in two independent ways, both in sexual attraction and in non-sexual attraction. One might wonder if there are in fact people who prefer one gender for sex but prefer the other for other personality aspects. (Though perhaps the same brain function controls both features).
Or maybe my whole premise is off. What do you think?