A while back I was was watching a show (Korean of course! :D) and a top KPop singer (Sunmi) videophoned (is that a word?) her brothers. The first thing her younger brother asked her was “Why are you wearing to much makeup?” and her older brother said that his girlfriend was prettier than her.
I know these are typical brother things to say, but do people really think their siblings aren’t attractive? I’m not talking in a creepy sexual way, but if your sister or brother is acknowledged as attractive by a large number of people, can you really be oblivious to that fact?
When we were younger, and my sister got into her late teens (I was in my early 20s at that point), yes, I was able to objectively recognize that she was gorgeous. She had a number of boyfriends, and she and one of her friends would regularly be invited backstage by musicians at the concerts that they’d attend.
My sister has a lot of our mom’s looks (and our mother was drop-dead beautiful as a younger woman), and a lot of my female relatives on mom’s side of the family were pretty-to-gorgeous.
My baby brother was an adorable baby and toddler. He was photogenic and never went through an awkward stage. He was chased around in highschool and college by many girls. He’s still the best looking of all of us. So, yes siblings know when their brother or sister is attractive.
Oh yeah my brother was smoking hot in high school. Everyone knew. He was the best looking guy in school and he only improved with age. Even in his 50s he’s incredibly handsome and well-groomed and works hard to stay in shape.
I don’t know why it would be any different from talking about how smart or talented a sibling is.
Now talking ugly, I can’t imagine my brother being mean and saying I’m ugly. I’m not an attractive woman. At BEST I’m handsome. I’ve actually been called that before. My brother has never said a bad thing about me in my presence though about appearance or intelligence. He’s always, since we were even kids, reminded me of Andy Griffith. Not a mean bone in his body.
In a theoretical sense, I know my sister is a hottie, but even writing that seems odd. I guess it’s a case of being too close to the tree to see the forest, so to speak…
I had a cousin who was extremely beautiful. When she walked into a room, everyone stopped whatever they were doing to look at her. She was once on the cover of Teen magazine.
The extended family adults were obsessed with her looks and carried on about her endlessly. She was the oldest of her generation, and the younger relatives were very aware of her beauty but didn’t really care that much. She was not close to her siblings or cousins, possibly because her time was full putting on makeup and fighting off the endless stream of males following her around.
She married a wealthy man who cheated on her and treated her like a possession. She died in her 30s during cosmetic surgery.
I learned from her that beauty is not necessarily a blessing.
I’ve mentioned this in another thread, but I’ve long accepted one of my biological cousins is my ideal type since I was 6 years old (she’s almost 20 years older than I am) and I’m always subconsciously looking for here traits, both physical and personality in an ideal mate.
However, there’s a degree of separation there. I wonder if I would see her beauty if she was my sister whom I grew up with.
I have 3 kids. One of whom is particularly beautiful. The other 2 aren’t ugly at all. But this one shines above them. The 2 don’t seem to be jealous or even really aware of it.
Me and Mr.Wrekker have talked about it and determined not to overtly praise and discuss this child’s beauty, in their presence. But, I assure you they know they’re beautiful.
When I was 14 or 15, and my sister 16 or 17, someone “much older” (probably ~25) at the tennis club referred to her as “Your sister, the one who looks like a movie star.” I was totally confused. I had never regarded her as anything out of the ordinary looks-wise.
But apparently she was. She appeared many adverts, and by the time she finished high school was getting offers to be the Administrative Assistant for many senior executives. Even though she could not type or take shorthand. This was Pakistan in the 1980s, where having a good looking secretary, who spoke English well was a big status symbol.
I could not see it myself, until quite a bit later. We didn’t get along as kids and actually well into our twenties. Maybe that had something to do with it.
Talking to her about it now (we are in our 50s) she’s been quite aware all along of her “gift” and the advantages and disadvantages that accrued.
My two sisters - both almost a decade older than me - were each quite attractive in their younger years.
But they don’t really look much like each other. (One looks like my father’s side of the family, the other like my mother’s.) To me, the more interesting question is whether they recognize that both of them are attractive, in somewhat different ways.
I have 3 sisters. When strangers see us all together we’re always told: “I can tell you are sisters”. This flabbergasts all of us, because we all look totally different. We have different eyes, noses, face shapes, coloring, hair, etc. We are all attractive in different ways and have been told that. Three of us are in our 50’s now and the youngest is mid 40’s. But we have aged well, take care of ourselves and always put effort into how we present ourselves. One of my sisters has very low self-esteem for some reason. She continually puts herself down. We all went to a state park this last summer and took a bunch of pictures of all of us. The one sister looked at every one of them and made a comment about how “ugly” she was and how the rest of us look like models The rest of us thought all 4 of us looked great!
People see different things and pick out different things to focus on.
I don’t have a sister, only a brother, and he is not unusually attractive. I would imagine that having a sibling of your preferred sex who is incredibly attractive is rather like viewing a stranger not of your preferred sex who is incredibly attractive: You can acknowledge they look good without feeling the slightest bit of wanting to jump their bones.
I have two sisters. One is fairly close in age with me, and I’ve always known that she is very pretty. She received a lot of attention from guys in her teens, and that confirmed it.
My other sister is quite a bit younger than me. She’s pretty too, but I didn’t grow up with her since I had already been out of the house for several years when she hit her teens.
The rest of us thought all 4 of us looked great!