Inspired by this thread.
Your boyfriend/husband/SO has gotten another woman pregnant, and she will continue the pregnancy only if you and the father agree to raise it. Do you?
In a heartbeat with no hesitation. Sign away all her rights and adopt it as our own. A child should be raised where they are loved and wanted.
No, because there would be no more “us.” Now if some woman dropped her kid off on our doorstep claiming it was my husband’s, and the kid was old enough that he/she was conceived before our relationship became exclusive, then yes, I would.
Why on earth would the mother sign away her rights? In all likelihood, that mother is the one who will raise the child. The awesome loverman might visit occasionally and pay support, but I doubt he’s going to be some kind of dad to the kid.
And hell f’n no, I wouldn’t raise my husband’s lovechild. I’d divorce his ass and leave him to his own mess. I wouldn’t want the child that was a product of my husband cheating on me, and there’s no way I could treat it the same as my own child.
Absolutely not. We don’t want kids at all, and I certainly wouldn’t continue the marriage if I discovered he was cheating.
Yes, in a heart beat.
The fact that my partner’s infidelity led to a conception would have zero impact on whether or not we broke up over said infidelity. Cheating leading to a conception is no better or worse in my mind than the non-reproducing time. If for some reason the other mother couldn’t/wouldn’t raise the child, and I and my partner had decided to remain together despite the cheating, I wouldn’t have a problem raising the child as my own. It is an innocent party, and I couldn’t deal with how selfish I would feel for denying my partner a role in their child’s life, even if that child wasn’t mine.
non-reproducing time = non-reproducing kind
d’oh
I put this in the other thread, too, but here it is.
If we decided to stay together, I’d have no problem with raising the kid.
If we decided to part ways, and we had other kids, I would happily be as involved with the child as I could be. I think it’s important for siblings and half-siblings to be together as much as possible, and I think it would be bad for my own kids if I treated their half-sibling badly.
I wouldn’t be together with him if he were a cheater, so I would bear no responsibility for her decision to keep/not keep the pregnancy.
Assuming you mean the child was concieved during our relationship…Nope. Life is too short to waste on someone who doesn’t respect our relationship. Whether or not she continues her pregnancy is their business.
Oh, hell no! He’d be out the door on his butt.
Oh hell no. My response would be spelled d-i-v-o-r-c-e and then after a period of grieving and extensive therapy I would find a non-cheater, get married and have our own biological or adopted children with him.
Yeah, I probably would, as long as it wasn’t some long-term affair he’d been having. A one-time indiscretion, I could probably forgive. It might be some time before everything was normal between us, but I wouldn’t hold it against the baby.
Now, if he’d been having some ten-year-affair, and lying to me about it, that’s a different matter. That negates any trust we had, and I don’t think the relationship could be rebuilt.
I love his kids from his previous relationship, so I don’t think I would have any problem loving any of his kids. Yeah, I could see where that child might be a constant reminder of his infidelity, but if he and I could work through that, then the child would just be another addition to our family, just like my kid, and his kids, and our kid.
Good Og, no. I don’t want my own kids let alone someone else’s. Visitation would be another matter and would depend on a lot of factors not directly related to the child itself really (i.e. relationship issues with the hypothetical husband).
Assuming I could forgive him for the affair, yes. It’s not the child’s fault and I hope I could provide it with a good, loving home.
If it was conceived before we got together, and I was married to the man and we’d made a longterm committment, I’d think about it. If he’s cheated on me, no. They can do as they please with it, it’s their fetus.
If my wife cheats, relationship over. I would continue to raise my OWN children in whatever way the courts allowed me to do so, but would have nothing to do with the spawn of the infidelity.
I would expect the same situation if it was me that did the cheating (though, I’ve NEVER understood the whole cheating concept)
That said my first is due in late March/Early April, but I’m sure it’s mine! 
-Butler
If she’s going to kill the child rather than have it, there is no way in hell I would want her to maintain any parental rights.
The question was, would I raise it. The answer is, yes. Adoption, the whole nine yards. I’d start on my prenatal vitamins and begin the process of relactation (since I’ve already done it once).
Whoa–so now she’s a murderous slut?!?
Seriously, though, Mynn–you do realize that it wouldn’t be your decision whether or not the biomom got to keep any parental rights, don’t you?