Funny how this exactly mirrors my reaction to you in this thread. Most other threads I’ve seen you in, you’ve been really cool. In this thread, for no reason that I can see, you’ve decided to be a real dick. And all over a subject you don’t care about! I mean, I can understand people getting angry and insulting over a subject they’ve got a lot of emotional investment in, but you’re angry and insulting over something you claim to have no interest in! What’s that all about?
What goes around, comes around. If you don’t like being insulted, best not to be insulting yourself.
Nonsense. If she were laughing to herself, she would keep it to herself. When, in direct response to another poster, she posts, “I’m laughing at you,” that’s not laughing to herself. That’s laughing right in someone’s face. Which she said she didn’t do. So, yeah: liar.
YOU are the one who is angry. I am only angry, in this thread, at YOU, for your insults and complete overreaction. I said I laughed over the guy’s tattoo, in a Pit thread, on an anonymous message board. That makes me a liar, huh? I’m marrying someone with 2 tattoos. My brother, SIL, and 2 best friends have tattoos. I manage to get along with them fine and have NEVER had a conflict with them over this. They haven’t had to call me a prick, jerk, or liar over this topic. Only you have. So I think you need to get a fucking grip.
Over one (admittedly mean) LOL, I get all this vitriol and hate from you? That’s the entire substance of your condemnation of me? Do you think this reaction is proportionate? Or maybe you are freaking the fuck out?
Somehow I manage to get along with and have loving relationships with lots of inked people. Yes, I do laugh internally when I see a dumb tattoo. I was honest about it here, in a setting I thought was safe. So, yes, I’m guilty-- I made an indiscreet comment here on the SDMB and you go thermonuclear. If that means that I’m a terrible person and you’ve totally revised your opinion of me, I have to say, that says far more about you than it does about me. And I have adjusted my opinion of you accordingly.
One of my funniest tattoo moments was one day when I was working for the Humane Society. I had gone into my artist’s studio to swap out the change collection can we had there. There was a girl in there waiting to get her tongue pierced. I said “I love my tattoos, but I just don’t think I could do that.” She gave me the eye - dressed in an ankle-length dress - and said “You have a tattoo?” So I raised the hem of my skirt. She was flabbergasted. “You look so prim and proper, I never would have guessed you had a legpiece!”
There are some tattoos I don’t find attractive. Personally, I find shoulder tattoos on women unappealing; no matter how feminine the tattoo it looks tough to me. I think a lot of people don’t think seriously about the tattoo they get before they get it, and wind up regretting it. I have talked people out of getting tattoos, because getting a neck tattoo when you’re 18 may be “kewl” but when you are 30 you may not be so happy with it. And some segments of society do judge. That is why I chose to get all but one of mine on my legs, because I can wear pants or dark hose and no one knows they are there. If I want to show them, I can do that, too. But I see no point in showing them at a funeral full of little old Mormon ladies! (And damn those black hose were hot that day!)
Have you ever shared the opinions you’ve expressed in this pit thread, to the inked people you know in real life? Of course not. Because you know that if you did, it would upset them. Am I right?
So, why are you surprised that when you express these opinions here, that people here get upset?
You call this vitriol and hate? Weren’t you just telling me that I need to read other pit threads to get some perspective?
No, I haven’t totally revised my opinion of you. It’s definitly shifted, and not in your favor, but note that where I’ve criticized you, I’ve been careful to limit it to comments on your behavior in this thread, on this subject. Like I said, you’ve been cool in other threads, and I expect that you’ll continue to be cool in other threads. But in this thread, on this topic, you’ve been a prick.
If they asked my opinion, I wouldn’t lie to them. They didn’t, so I didn’t. I am not as diplomatic in the Pit, for a lot of reasons. You might disagree with my philosophy of behavior here, but a lot, lot worse than my LOL gets said here all the time without the hand-slapping from you that I’m getting.
You’ve really overreacted. IMO.
I can live with you thinking that, because I think you’ve been mightily a prick yourself. So that’s that.
I was trying to lighten the tone. I really would like to stop this conversation, but I am notoriously bad at that. We think each other are pricks in this thread, and we like each other a little less now. OK. G’night?
Except that this thread is no different from a million other threads on the SDMB where a person expresses an opinion in general about a certain group…she wasn’t talking to or about any specific poster. She had no reason to think that ANY person posting fit into the group she was referring to…even if they have Hanji tattoos, given that she never lumped everyone with a Hanji tattoo into the group she was deriding.
For that matter, every time someone expresses a negative opinion about anything on the SDMB, they risk possibly insulting another poster…that doesn’t mean that they intended to insult anyone in particular.
Hmm. I think you might have missed a step in the conversation. This is the post I specifically took issue with. She’s not talking about a “certain group” there, she’s replying directly to another poster.
Dear God, am I a doofus. Guess I can’t pass it off as a typo, since I did it twice! Remind me never to get one of those damn tattoos…I would clearly in the group Rubystreak was referring to!
Well, technically I think rubystreak did insult me personally with the whole laughing comment, but since I have a Klingon tattoo I’m used to being insulted. Plus, I can’t really work up any real vitriol towards some anonymous message board poster.
Yeah, I know, I saw it…but I give people a little leeway in the pit. I mean, she had already stated her POV on the topic, she can’t really go backpedaling and say, “oh, well, I was talking about everybody ELSE, but now that I know YOU have one, I take it all back.” Besides, I read Dante’s post as laughing a little bit at himself about the whole thing, and then Rubystreak’s as carrying on the joke…I didn’t think it was all that mean spirited.
I apologize if I hurt your feelings. It was a toss-off comment that I made off the cuff in a setting that lends itself to such casual snottiness. I don’t know you and if I did, I’m sure this whole thing would have gone down differently. I did not mean it as some sort of indictment of you as a person or to make you feel bad.
Well, if I got more worked up over it than the guy who was actually insulted, I guess that’s probably an over-reaction. Sorry for blowing up at you, Rubystreak.
