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But someone has seen it besides you. Sorry, I just don’t buy the “only for me” thing. I’m not saying you’re lying, I’m just saying that at some level, people who get tattoos are doing it for the purpose of being intriguing to other people, even if only a few people are going to see it, and even if they aren’t consciously admitting it. I’d bet a million dollars that a person living on a desert island who knew s/he was never going to see another human being, would not care about having tattoos.
Of course that is only my opinion, and you have every right to disagree.
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I believe Joey P (and my wife) when they say they have tattoos only for themselves and for no one else.
I can’t speak for Joey P, but I can say something about my wife. She has a thing for what I might call physical reminders. Photos, souvenirs, scrapbooks, and so on. Anything she can do to preserve an experience, to have a way to bring the experience back to her in the future, she’s into that. And tattoos are part of this for her. She doesn’t have her tattoos in order to express something to other people. Rather, she has them as the most intimate, indelable way to ensure that certain things she has loved, and certain experiences she has gone through, remain with her forever.
I personally do not understand this. My mind just doesn’t work this way. I can not think of a symbol as being so concrete and real as she does. To me the separation between symbol and thig-symbolized is pretty wide.* For her it’s not so wide. I can’t think like this, but I recognize that many can and do.
So I may think we have way to many photos around the house (it gets cluttered around here) but I know this is how my wife remembers. And the tattoos are part of that. They’re not for me or for anyone else–they’re for her, and only her.
-FrL-
*I can find symbols deeply significant, but they present themselves to me as tools for thinking about other things. For my wife, it’s different–they present themselves to her as the thing they symbolize. That’s a little more stark than the actual situation–it’s more fuzzy than I describe it–but the basic idea is right.