Ugghhh, my sympathies. I hear you can find the best hit men on Craig’s list. Discrete and cheap! Totally professional too! 
My advice. Anytime anyone complains about anything respond with “quit your fucking bitching”. Its quite freeing.
What a cutie!
I’m sure they did.
To add insult to injury I was informed by her that I am NOT to buy my son a car unless somebody (I guess mom) is going to widen the driveway. We already have 5 cars with only 4 spaces and there is not enough room for another car.
I started to say well no, maybe the two people who are staying here temporarily need to pack up and move and take their two cars with them.
Maybe I shouldn’t have stopped myself.
Some people just like to bitch and will bitch about anything. If you don’t like it and can’t get your mom to kick them out, you could kick yourself out (meaning, move out). You’re entitled to complain about their bitchiness, but you won’t change it. The next best option is to remove yourself from their sphere of influence.
:D:D:D
Works for me. I think your mom should throw them out. Tell them that they had their 2 months and more, and that she doesn’t care that he just changed jobs, he had a perfectly good job he quit because he didn’t like it. Life sucks that sometimes you have to do stuff you don’t like.
My soon to be ten year old daughter:
- Does her own laundry and folds it and puts it away each week.
- Takes out the recycling twice a week to the bins outside in the backyard and
sometimes helps me pull the bins up to the curbside. - Takes out the trash from the other smaller trash cans in the house as when they
get full - Does her own dishes most of the time and cleans up after herself
- Cleans her room and her study desk every weekend
- Helps put away groceries and she is responsible for putting away her school
lunch items in their proper places after I return from grocery shopping. - Clean the windows once every month
I have recently started paying her a little money each week for her chores and she is slowly learning how to save her money and spend her money wisely to buy things for herself. She is awesome.
I would’ve expected nothing less if I had a male offspring.
Our kids (boys and girl) had a similar range of chores when they lived at home.
In addition, once they became teenagers (i.e. 13 and sometimes before), they had to cook a full meal once a week, and it could not be the same meal week on week. That way, once they left home, they could at least cook a range of meals from scratch that were edible (and, in fact, were darn good), clean house, do laundry, shop, iron. Oh, and the understanding that life isn’t always easy, or fair, and does not always come with a safety net.
You know, be adults. :rolleyes:
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Ok. Now that we have his basic domestic skill set, I suggest that a good slavedriver would have him:
Mow, rake and shovel their shit out of there.
Unload the freeloaders.
Vacuum some money from their pockets.
Feed their dog to your dog.
Take out the trash. (See item 2).
Since he has to keep his room in a liveable condition, how come grandma gets to mess up her whole house with these boundary-stretchin’ eejits?
I agree these folks sound insufferable. A sideways question, though: why are you and your son living in your mother’s house?
I’m wondering whether your mother feels that she has to take in relatives who need a place to stay, but maybe she’s a little resentful, and maybe the other relatives have picked up on that and for complicated reasons are white-knighting your mom in passive-aggressive ways. Do you have plans to find a place, or are you and your son permanent fixtures in the house?
You and your mom should have a chat. It is up to her to kick the relatives out, but you can let her know that you will happily back her up.
Failing that, tell her that you want her presence while you have some choice words with her guests. Tell her in advance what you are going to say so she has fair warning and then let loose on the others yourself. And tell them that every time they comment about how you raise your son, you will point out that he is better at sticking to a job than they are.
If all else fails, consider moving yourself. It might be tough on you and tough on your mother, but putting up with hospitality-sucking, rude, ‘temporary’ houseguests may be worse.
You’ll have to weigh all the options available to you.
What’s preventing you from moving out of your mother’s house? Even a modest apartment for you and your son sounds like it would be a much better arrangement than what you’re dealing with now.
My 14yo son has a similar list that he’s supposed to do, and does with varying levels of enthusiasm.
Dish in the sink? If it’s there in the morning because he had to rush to catch the school bus he gets a pass. If it’s there in the evening because he couldn’t put it in the dishwasher because it’s full of clean dishes the top of my head wants to fly off.
It sounds to me as if the OP’s son gets a lot of things right and deserves the same consideration when he misses a step as we all do. And yes, cleaning up the mess made in the house by a dog that isn’t yours is worth a ton of dishes in the sink.
It may be a similar thing - my brother moved in temporarily with my parents when he got divorced 20 years ago, but they liked having him there to do the yard, heavy chores and make sure the VCR stopped blinking [:D] and so they didn’t have to either find a cat sitter or put the furballs in a boarding kennel when they went on vacation.
IMHO nothing wrong with a multigenerational household.