Last night, at my son’s soccer practice, one of his teammates asked, “are you Jewish?” or something to that effect. I guess he said, “No, I’m an atheist.” At that point, his coach stepped in to explain to him and everyone else that there are two kinds of people, good people and bad people, and he (my son) is a good person, so it doesn’t matter what he is. I heard all about this from the coach when I came to pick my kid up.
Now, it’s true that my kid (just turned 14) doesn’t have any religious beliefs – he just wasn’t brought up with any. He’s not an atheist through any deep philosophical process of thinking everything through, though. He just hasn’t had exposure to much religion. I was brought up the same way – Jewish on my mother’s side, Catholic on my father’s side, and we never did any formal religious things. We did, however, celebrate various holidays on both sides.
Obviously, his coach was taken aback at his statement, and the other kids probably were, too – kids at that age aren’t usually deep believers, but it’s more of a tribal identification thing. I think there are one or two Jewish kids and the rest are probably Catholic. Most kids at that age, in my opinion, seem to think you should identify with something. I just used to say that my mother was Jewish and my father was Catholic. Sometimes I would say that I was both, sometimes I would say that I’m basically nothing.
Anyway, do you think I should just let this be and let him be out and proud, so to speak? Or, should I tell him it probably makes more sense to just tell people that you’re not really religious, rather than using the A word?
I will be checking in now and again today – somewhat ironically, I will be getting some stuff together for a Seder later today at my uncle’s, and then my wife and I have to figure out what we’re doing for the kids for Easter. So, I’ll be in and out. Opinions are appreciated.