Sorry, you really do need to meet a wider variety of people.
Most gays and lesbians are just as boring as any straight people. It is hard to spot them in everyday situations.
I was just coming in to post that ;). Now that equality is finally creeping up on us Americans it can finally be said - rumors of gay fabulousness have been vastly overstated. Many are as boring as dirt :D.
I’ve heard it. So?
No need to imagine it. I have a number of gay friends and one of them has a husband that is very like mine. We’re always saying stuff like that to each other.
Well, I’m sure that everyone should strive to keep you entertained at all times.
(Anyone find it as hilarious as I do that now it’s just so BORING to be gay and married?)
Sure we do. We have two actually…
“Girlfriend/Boyfriend” or “Significant Other”
No “SO” (dumb, very dumb) and no “partners” for sure. I knew a woman who was in a long-term relationship with another woman, but they were also business partners. So when she first told me about how her partner did something amusing, I (and many others) chalked it up to something funny happening at work. About a year later, she became rather annoyed that she had to come out again to a group of people that she thought had known her orientation for a long time.
Perhaps your problem is your screen name.
I think the correct term is husband[sup]2[/sup]
I’ve been talking about my sister’s wife for years. I introduce her as my sister-in-law. They have the best marriage I’ve ever seen.
The other day at the store I rang up a $10. purchase. A woman came up and siad “My wife spent less than $50? Amazing.” It did not faze me in the least.
I don’t hear the words “Husband” and “Wife” very often at all. I suspect it is because most of the couples I know didn’t have a wedding, but in any case “partner” is far more common.
I wouldn’t have said that “wedding” is a gay thing, but around where I live, it’s not particularly a ‘straight’ thing either.
“I now pronounce you wife and wife” sounds fine.
Yes well, you could also translate the second as mistress, which would be quite derogatory in current English usage, and you don’t even need to recourse to Spanish to come up with the English sentence.
I still don’t get used to this boyfriend-girlfriend being used to indicate someone you’ve lived with for years (or the people who do the same in Spanish). And why a term used by people who don’t wanna get married should be the one used by others who do wanna (or even, have) is beyond me. Would you expect people in a heterosexual marriage to refer to each other as boyfriend and girlfriend? If you wouldn’t, then it makes no sense for people in a homosexual marriage either.
Because we want those terms to be associated with PEOPLE, including us. We do not live our lives to distance ourselves from humanity because most of it happens to be straight. We are part of humanity. A guy calling another man his husband does not sound boring to me. It sounds pretty damn glorious, if you are in love and want to spend the rest of your life showing that love to a deserving man.
If you’re not married, the person you’re with is not your husband or wife. End of story. If you are married, regardless of whether you’re gay or straight, that person is your husband or wife. End of story.
I’ll never understand the backlash against boyfriend/girlfriend for adults in relationships where they’re unmarried. It’s a perfectly good word.
Yeah. Significant Other is, among other things, rather unwieldy. Been dealing with it for 27 years now.
I think the idea is (or at least the root of the idea is) that a girl/boy-friend relationship is a lower-level one.
I can kind of get that, but there is no good word for a relationship above it. So why fight it?
It’s feels weird to say that my 85 year old uncle has a girlfriend who is 80. 
We’re fiftyish, have kids together and have lived together for fifteen years. “Partners” has been working for us, but we want to creep out the kids more now that they’re teens. Do we go back to coyly calling each other boyfriend/girlfriend or should we go for broke and say we’re “lovahs”?