Three way?
Maybe I’ve been up too long!
With anyone else I’d have assumed he meant tea set trivet… but here all bets are off.
Hey! Leave your erections out of this!
Not only that, the way he describes the “long, hot” shower, it makes it seem that he doesn’t have hot water at his place.
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Yeah I don’t have sufficiently hot water at my place.
She was talking to my wife. I learnt about the conversation after it happened.
You mean after it happent?
Because…?
A woman often uses the shower.
The water isn’t sufficiently hot because the water temperature isn’t turned up enough. I want it to be really really hot so that I almost am in pain.
I think we’re all with you there.
Why don’t you turn up the temperature setting on your hot water service?
That’s the least of your problems. You’re married to this woman, and things that are important to marriage are honesty, trust and compromise. None of those are evident in your post. You won’t admit to a slight change of heart in a minor dispute over a teaset because you think it will make it harder to win arguments in the future. Maybe your mindset should be that it’s not worth digging in your heels over the minor stuff; save it for the things that really matter. Be honest with your wife about your changing opinion, trust that she won’t exploit this in future, and try to find a middle ground that suits you both.
The gas for the hot water is already expensive enough without me using it. If it was turned up hot enough then other people would need to add cold water to it which would make them use more gas than normal.
Well I did say it was trivial.
I just withheld the latest truth… I didn’t explicitly lie about this.
The future possibility of hoarding and clutter is kind of a major issue for me - if I can get her to cooperate.
I find a middle ground a lot - BTW I try to be quite financially generous to her as a way of compromising - I don’t mind paying money in exchange for other kinds of favors.
BTW you said I should be honest but what about those issues like “do I look fat in these pants?” when she is objectively obese? I say things like I think she looks “alright” and occasionally I say she looks “attractive”… (attractive is a subjective term). On the other hand she talks in objective terms (e.g. “you have the best penis in the world”)
Eliahna:
I created a related thread:
How much honesty should there be in a marriage?
It’s never too late to start.
The cups are vaginas, by my reckoning.
I think this was a very useful thread, the moral of it is: Don’t buy tea sets on eBay.
‘Everything’s got a moral, if only you can find it.’
- The Duchess- Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland
I also found it useful, having a giggle at names on the Kabalarians site.
Hitler: You have had the desire to accomplish something outstanding and to do something very worthwhile for humanity, especially early in your life.