So, I’m really hating being single right now. I feel like my sex drive is in overdrive, or at least it’s high enough to challenge whatever sanity I have. I’ve been single…well, pretty much forever. I’ve had two boyfriends in my life, both at least semi-long-distance, and neither close.
I have one friend I’d just love to shag silly. He has a girlfriend.
I met a guy last semester who I went on one date with. However, I was distancing myself from him a bit towards December to try and concentrate on schoolwork. Haven’t talked to him since, never see him IRL anymore, and I lost his e-mail address bangs head against wall So I’m basically stuck there.
I’m too shy to go out by myself, but that doesn’t matter much because I’m too broke as well. So it’s partly my fault that I don’t meet guys–but I really hate bars, even with friends. It’s just not my scene.
So basically, I’m stuck here right now, without even someone to cuddle with, until I get the guts to do something about it (or until some cute guy asks me out, and I’ll try and not make it a repeat of last time), and it’s driving me insane. Meanwhile, one of my friends just got engaged a little over an hour ago. I’m happy for her, of course (at least I will be once it sinks in–I keep forgetting that I’m actually old enough to get married) but it just makes me feel even more lonely. Though at the rate I’m going, I’ll need to have someone literally push me at a guy before anything happens. Blah.
And I just remembered that it’s Valentine’s Day Monday. Oh, joy.
(Dating advice is welcome. So are sympathy and chocolates )
But seriously, don’t worry so much. Valentines is just another Hallmark-created day anyway. I’m sure there are lots of guys who want to ask you out. Especially if they knew about the sex drive thing.
Yeah, I’m pretty shy myself. All the times I’ve gone up and asked a girl out, I’ve been shot down. And I’m unemployed at the moment, so I shouldn’t go out anyway. (Although I’ve got some videography gigs coming up, which may pay.) I’d go to bars with friends, except none of my friends go to bars.
But against all odds, I became engaged last summer. The first time I asked her, she passed it off as a joke. The second time – well, I didn’t actually ask her; but I told her how I felt. Nope. We’re ‘just friends’. Then she suggested I ask her, and I did. She said yes. I asked her again when I gave her a ring. (It’s a long-distance thing, and she came out for Christmas.) She said yes again. Then a week after she got home, she told me that she changed her mind. Yet another lonely Valentine’s Day. (I must be the only guy on the planet who’s never had someone on Valentine’s Day.)
And to top it all off (without mentioning the other depressing things going on right now), I have a cold.
Yup. It sucks to be single sometimes. I strongly suspect that there are very few people who haven’t had the same problems with their love life. I say we hunt them down and hurt them severely .
On the flip side, some people are so desperate to be in a relationship that they put up with all manner of physical and emotional abuse just to avoid being alone. So while you might not know how to make your situation better, you CAN keep it from being worse. If you want something in the worst way, that’s generally how you’ll get it.
I’d also recommend avoiding the bar scene when looking for companionship, unless you’re just looking to get “shagged silly”, in which case I would recommend Trojans[sup]TM[/sup] .
IME, you don’t find love, it finds you, and usually after you’ve given up trying.
{{{hugs}}} and Virtual Chocolates for Valentine’s Day[sup]TM[/sup]
Been there, done that (while seeking girls), don’t want the T-shirt. I’m afraid I can’t help you on the dating advice, except possibly as an object lesson in what not to do.
Nope. Which is why, if I pay attention to V-Day at all, I’ll be doing something like renting the St Valentine’s Day Massacre.
I can reccomend Eitelbach truffles. My landlady brought them around to all the tenants after our heating problems a few weeks ago, and they are superb.
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