What was good about daylight savings? It gave the kids an extra hour after school to work in the fields. good sense from the point of view of the farmers. Of course your friends is wrong.
I’ve expereicnced the same thing biggirl. What you have to remember is that people change over time based on their experiences, and no one has the exact same experiences.
Biggirl, although I agree in principle with the people saying that you should have friends of all levels of intelligence, in practice it’s not that easy. If the problem annoys you so much that you don’t want to be around him anymore, then it’s okay to drop the friendship. No one is keeping score.
Just about everybody goes through a few sets of friends in their lives; the people who have the same friends from elementary school until death are extremely rare. It takes time to find the people you really mesh with.
If you can’t bring yourself to break off the friendship then stop arguing with him. Sometimes the best thing you can do with ignorant people is just to change the subject.
Dropzone,
My “and you were too self-absorbed or ignorant to notice (no offense intended)?” statement was truly not meant to be offensive. That’s why I put in the disclaimer.
It is certainly possible that Biggirl was too self-absorbed to notice the level of the friends intelligence. I don’t think that’s necessarily a bad thing. Same goes for ignorant. Ignorance is merely not knowing something, it refers to knowledge, not intelligence. Biggirl could easily have been ignorant of the friends intelligence level. In fact, that’s the most likely scenario here, and is alluded to in the OP.
Biggirl
I wonder how old you are.
Very similar things happened to me in my late teens, early twenties. All of a sudden noticing that certain friends didn’t know as much about the world as I thought they did, for one.
I think that what happens is that interests change. People tend to change a lot in early adulthood. It’s a very transitional time.
Maybe earlier in your friendship you discussed your feelings a lot more than what was happening in the world. Perhaps you have learned a lot more about the world, and he hasn’t. Your views are broadening, his are closing.
For me, I eventually dropped many friendships due to the fact that we had nothing in common anymore. Not just hobbies and what we do in our spare time, but because we started thinking in totally seperate directions. For each of those friendships dropped, I’ve made more friends to take their place. Sure I disagree with many of my friends on various subjects. But just because we disagree, I do not think they they’re idiots. I have to be able to respect my friends. It probably does come down to the whole respect thing. If you honestly believe this person is not the sharpest crayon, there is a good chance that you will drift apart, but that you’ll make new friends who you do think are pretty smart.
Thanks all.
About the welfare statistics. I believe he was being quite racist. When I pointed out that almost all the black people he knows (including myself) work and are not on welfare and that he hardly knew any black people who were on the dole, his answer was “well, I don’t hang out with lowlifes.” As if people on welfare are all low-lifes, black people in particular.
It’s not just that I’ve recently noticed his ignorance-- everybody can’t know everything-- it’s more his don’t-confuse-me-with-the-facts attitude that is beginning to turn me off.
On the addition problem. It was a very long list that I was compiling for work. When I said don’t start over, we can just subtract the number from the total, he not only did not even try to see how this was correct, but actually prevented me from doing it my way by clearing out the calculator. I had to start all over again because he refused to acknowledge how he could be wrong.
I won’t get into the heated discussion we had the other day about how I could answer the phone while I was on the internet. I just didn’t answer because I knew it was him calling.
I think he’s turning into a crotchety old man before his time.
I’m going through the same thing right now. One of my best friends (for about 5 or 6 years now) is pretty smart and talented. In 7th grade he scored a 1310 on the PSAT. We’re sophomores now. Lately, though, I’ve lost a bunch of respect for him. He has an F in Pre-Calc. It’s not that he simply doesn’t understand the concepts, he also hasn’t done a single assignment in the 5 weeks of school and has done poorly on each quiz or test.
I hope he’ll snap out of it, but I fear the worst. I’ll probably make a long post/rant based on this at the end of the school year, just to up my post count. My prediction is a final grade of C, but one can never know.
Sorry if you took me seriously! The 
was used to show I was being a wiseass, although I’m usually too self-absorbed to think that some people will not read me correctly.
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I’m sorry. Were you talking to me? I was too busy putting on my make-up and trying to think of words that end in “gry” to notice. (Imagine one of those god-awful winkie things here.)
Biggirl
It sounds to me like he is deliberately trying to piss you off. I’m going to take a wild guess here. Is it possible that you two are in a platonic relationship, but he’s not happy with it and wants to turn it into a romantic relationship? He could be acting out at you because he’s frustrated that you refuse to see him as anything but a friend. And/or he could be trying to provoke an argument so that he can shake up the status quo and make you see him in a different light.
Again, this is just a wild guess. But he sounds kind of young and immature, and sometimes this is the way that young, immature guys act when they’re caught in a platonic relationship where they had hoped to be in a romantic relationship.