I know other couples with “his money/her money” situations. Why bother to be married? Really.
But I don’t think she can get your precious inheritance. You lucky dawg.
All of a sudden,I feel this strange urge to buy my loving and selfless wife a fucking big house to live in.
Still very curious as to how you ended up married to someone you dislike so much - please explain.
'Scuse me whilst I go give my husband a great big hug and tell him how very much I appreciate him.
Oh, and congrats on the big windfall though. I’m sure you and your money will be very happy together. 
vunderbob
So, what’s the story between you and your wife? :dubious:
Not necessarily true. Some states require a percentage of your estate to be left to your spouse. Failing to do so can result in a judged deciding to award 100% of your estate to said spouse.
So many questions…
If you are still married and not under a pre-nup, wouldn’t any money you come into belong to both of you?
Is this son you refer to only her son, or is he your son as well?
What the hell did you do with your life insurance? Cash it in?
I mean not that any of this matters, so long as you keep what is rightfully yours and move your wife and rugrat into a ghetto against their wishes.
I, too, am awaiting vunderbob’s return (and a few explanations), but my question (assuming that the post is legit and not a joke which unfortunately fell flat) is what exactly did you do with the life insurance money, and does this have anything to do with your attitude towards your wife?
You gotta throw us a bone, man.
Too late. The wife and kid got all the bones. To go with the palacial shoebox he’s springing for.
I didn’t buy my wife a fuckin’ house, either. We bought a fuckin’ house, mostly with money I made. I figured it was our fuckin’ money.
Go figure.
It’s weird, but if you do a quick search on vunderbob’s other posts, a quick scan down the list of his posts reveals that he appears to be a fairly normal, decent human being… we could be dealing with a jekyll/hyde situation here
I vunder who wrote the Book of Love. Twern’t bob.
Come back vunder, come back. Need some amplification here.
As most serious fights are about money this is not necessarily a bad thing. Comes down to money management styles. My wife and I keep separate accounts because we handle our money differently. Instead of pointless arguments about whose way is better, we just keep our accounts separate as split up the bills. The mortgage is paid with 2 checks. The bank doesn’t care either.
All of the big assets are in both of our names though (both cars and house). FWIW, I have been married six years quite happily.
For the OP, seriously think about either marriage counseling or a good divorce attorney. Life is way too short to be that angry.
Well, sometimes one person in a couple is completely horrendous with money. I know I often dream about blasting my DH in the pit for his spending habits. Maybe he was just blowing off a little steam. How about we wait for details before we get out the pitchforks and torches?
Also, IIRC, inherited money belongs solely to the inheritor in some states.
My husband and I have “his money/her money” too. We have seperate accounts and divide up the bills. We divide things up based on who has more money. Of course when I run out of spending cash at the end of the month my husband is always happy to write me a check. We make all major financial decisions together even though we do have seperate saving and retirement accounts.
Having sperate accounts and money keeps us from having those stupid “you spend how much on shoes” and “do you really need another fishing pole” fights from happening.
If either of us came into a large chuck of money we would decide how to spend it together. If we couldn’t agree then we would split it and each do what we wanted with our half. It isn’t often that we can’t agree though. I guess it is because we actually like each other unlike bob and his wife.
Similar deal for me - we keep 3 accounts, 2 personal spending accounts and a joint account for mortgage, bills, etc. Oh, and a joint savings account.
As you say, saves arguments and lets you do your own thing.
Ahhh…lovers in springtime.
What?! It’s the dead of winter? Well, that explains it then.
Methinks this is a joke of some type. Either that or ol’ Bob stopped to post on his way to a divorce lawyer’s place.
Ditto. We also have separate savings accounts.
Um, because I like being able to choose what I do with my money without feeling guilty that I’m indulging myself with family funds. Being married doesn’t mean you suddenly have no personal identity or privacy.
That said, the attitude in the OP is…disturbing. I kept re-reading it looking for the “ex” in front of “wife” and didn’t find it. I can’t imagine that Mr. Cameron would ever have that kind of attitude if I suggested that a windfall would help us buy a bigger house, and if the situation were reversed, I would never even dream of reacting the way vunderbob apparently has. I’m really, really hoping that this was intended as a joke or that divorce proceedings are starting any day now.
Separate savings? Well if that’s your attitude why bother to be married.
A savings account is a piggy bank, right?
Bren-Cameron said, “Um, because I like being able to choose what I do with my money without feeling guilty that I’m indulging myself with family funds. Being married doesn’t mean you suddenly have no personal identity or privacy.”
If you’re married, it’s all family funds. You just choose to designate some to yourself and some to the community fund. But you can do that with one joint account, is all I’m saying. It won’t damage your personal identity or privacy. My husband and I decide how much money is left over after the bills are paid, and we spend money on ourselves. He’s into hot rod stuff, I’m into clothes, home decorating, and going out. To each his own.
Also, many of the people who disagree with the joint account thing are two income families. I got the impression from the OP that she doesn’t work (lazy, I think he called her), in which case, he’s making her feel like less than equal because she doesn’t bring in a check. I’ve got friends who do this, and I think it’s degrading and insulting. I could be wrong on that, but that’s how it came across to me.