It seems that your interpretation of what he’s saying is bothering you more than what he’s saying. In your world his statements means he hates his wife, which as others have said, doesn’t have to be true. I think you should be respectful of your significant other, but it works both ways, your significant other has to respect you as well.
I think your making too much of his rant, which I think he has a right to make. Judge on!
Diane,
I think he may hate some of her actions, which is different from hating her as a person.
There’s a double standard here when it comes to men expressing their dismay with the actions of their significant others versus women expressing their dismay with theirs. A man is usually branded a misogynist when ranting about something a woman has done to him.
Is there a equivalent word for misogynist, in the english language for women that hate or are distrustful of men?
If he puts his rant on a public message board then people are going to read it and have an opinion on it. When he asys nothing to correct the opinion that people have made then they are going to assume it is true. It is actually what he is saying that is bothering me. You don’t have to read into it for it to be bad.
We don’t know if his wife is respectful of him or not. We do know that he isn’t respectful of her.
It’s a public message board, and he’s anonymous, to him it can no more than him shouting this stuff into a hole in the ground. It’s not different from writing someone a nasty letter and never sending it to them, because the reason for it is to help you turn the corner on the event. I hope no one ever says anything bad to you, sounds like you’d be crushed.
In Conceivable, what we are seeing here is some of his personal thought pattern about he feels about something that she did in the pass and is trying to do now. The question I would ask you, is this: Have you ever had bad thoughts, complete with hateful language for anyone you know/knew, love/loved or were aquainted with? I’ll take your no answer as a mother fucking lie. 
I wonder if the next time someone posts a nasty ass diatribe about their dumb ass husband that certain posters will show up to chastice that person as well. Or is it just wrong to vent about your wife/girlfriend?
Or are you saying it is ok for one gender to do something, but not another?
Ah, know this argument, love it, was waiting for it.
It’s total bullshit.
Its usually used by someone defending an attack on their reaction to an OP. Therefore the poster almost nevers sees that their post is being judged as well. So pulling out this old line is like saying the sky is blue. Its useless information.
Now, as for the OP, why is it such a big whip that’s he’s talking about his wife? Would it be so much different if she was already his ex-wife? Is the Pit not the place to express such hate and anger?
Pitizens (myself included) are like feral fucking dogs - if someone barks in the right key, we all agree and go take down the nearest deer. If that key is off just a bit, then that particular dog gets the deer treatment.
Hmm. Now that I re-read that sentence it doesn’t seem like such a bad thing.
No. Interesting, isn’t it? I know it’s a whole other thread, but theories abound as to why this is the case . . .
Anyway. I think you’re right about there being somewhat of a double standard, here, but since none of us does know vunderbob, we’re left to form an opinion about the OP based on subjective reasoning: How would I feel if my spouse/SO were talking about me like that (to my face or behind my back)?
And since very few of us probably feel like we would have done anything to deserve such vitriol, we sort of project and assume that bob’s wife hasn’t, either. Admittedly faulty reasoning, I know, but that’s what I see happening.
Also, whereas a woman griping about her husband may not get as much shit for it as a man griping about his wife, I think that if the OP had been written by a woman, about her husband, people would still have questioned whether or not she should be in this relationship, based on how she seems to feel about him (which is, in turn, based on the language used in the OP).
What’s the debate here?
Men are always wrong, women are always right. Men don’t have the right to bitch, women do. The sooner you men realize this, the easier life will be for all of us.
Okay. I get it.
Here is my opinion. I think that the OP is hateful and disrespectful to his wife. Nothing that other posters can say will make me rethink that opinion. The OP or his wife could if they care to. Hell, if the OP would just say one nice thing about his wife it would cause me to re-evaluate.
I have had bad thoughts about love ones of course. But I always do my best to be respectful and loving both to my husband’s face and when I speak about him. If I slip up I apologize for it. I have never called my husband a name like “greedy” or “lazy” to other people. You don’t speak like that to or about people you love.
Yes, you can have an opinion on my opinion. MrMyrth, my post was specifically in response to a post telling me that I was judging and making to much of a rant he has the right to make. Of course he has the right to make the rant. My only point is that people are going to read it. We can circle around it all day. You can judge my post judging his post. The point is if he has the right to make the rant then I have a right to comment on it. You can comment on my comment if you want but if your comment is telling me I shouldn’t comment then I don’t get it.
Kinda like the name change there, In Conceivable. Makes me seem happier than I really am.
I am not telling you not to comment. I am saying that the ‘public message board’ gauntlet has been run a few times too many. What you said in your last post was succint and to the point. It’s a hell of a lot better explanation than ‘I can talk back cause its out in public.’ I just don’t think that argument is original.
Damn! Now I can’t get the theme song to I Love Lucy out of my head. Thanks a lot.
Besides buying presents for their better halves with the money so schemingly squirreled away, I’m sure these women buy the occasional hat for themselves. The kind with a little flower, no doubt. :rolleyes:
I should’ve said also that the use of that argument is a pet peeve of mine, so don’t take it personally, In Conceivable.
Don’t you see, the beauty of this forum is that we are not real people!
You can write things here that you couldn’t tell your best friend!
It’s kinda like talking to the dog, but getting an actual response.
**. . . fucking brilliant if you ask me. . . **
None of us will ever know Bob, or know his wife. He will never have to look at us, or go to dinner with us, or drink a beer with us etc.
What better place is there to disrespect his wife? Tell his friends? Every time he says another word about her they bring this up. Her friends? Yeah right. His family? No, they would hate her forever, there goes Chriistmas. Her family? See last statement, now multiply effect exponentially.
Well, right on, Ferret Herder! See why I dig this place? Learn something new every day!
(The Womens’ Studies class I took a few years ago had a big discussion on why there wasn’t a word for hatred of men, so I just took that as gold.)
Now I’m off to use my new word for the day . . . 
Just curious-- if she had just paid for groceries and stuff for the kids with from the main account, why would he have had to get involved? Why would she have to ask him to take out of that account? This only makes sense to me if you couldn’t get an account under two names back then. Couldn’t they just get checks with both their names on em, and each get their own card to take money out with?
CAT, will you marry me?
That depends.
Are you going to ask me to have kids?
And we know that because…? Because he said those words using a anonimous screen name in an anonimous message board? As opposed to telling her on her face?
You see that is the beauty of the pit. Instead of going to your boss and telling him what a greedy, irresponsible little prick he is you post it here, vent your anger, cool off and go to your office and politely say “Good morning Mr. Boss, I hope you had a nice weekend”. It is faster and cheaper than psycotherapy if you ask me.
I am sure that most people that vent here do not act like this in real life (hopefully, the alternative is scary). I am sure that sauron didn’t really want to kill the Emperor of the World. I think you people (you in general) should stop tryign to disect OPs in the pit, stop analyzing the words of someone who is just angry and wants some relief, specially when it is a personal situation. It doesn’t make you (you in general) look better, only like judgmental people.
Misandry **
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Way to go Ferret Herder, my paper dictionary didn’t have that entry, perhaps because it’s about 25 years old. What’s the noun from of Misandry? Misandrist? 