So, okay, theres this guy. (gee, do I even have to tell you that this is high school? The phrase “theres this guy” is by far enough to tell you that.) I’m a sophomore, he’s a senior, and considerable age difference. And, as the story goes, I like the guy. He’s approproately geeky, smart, and adorable. Lets name him, oh, “Nick”. My english class is reading The Great Gatsby.
And because I like him, I invited him over to do some gaming with my sister and people. He’s met my sister, the other people are also geeks, and I think are all on the boards
But aparently, it’s his little brothers birthday party.
I think I’ve been blown off.
He seemed interested in gaming, though, and we talk alot during school. He’s interested in whether or not I have a bf (or a gf in my case. mmm, bisexual). And he did want me at the fundraiser the Model UN class is having for Tsunami releif this weekend, which is right before gaming.
(oops. didnt quite finish that)
but anywho. Im not going to get my hopes up.
I was rejected.
maybe.
So you asked him out once and because he (said he) had a conflict, you think you were blown off?
I’d suggest continuing the talking in school and if anything else comes up to ask again.
Well, unless you KNOW he doesn’t have a little brother or something…that would be a pretty good sign.
Yes indeed (said the older, non-predatorial bisexual guy).
Could be that he’s required to be at his brother’s party. Take a chance with him. See what happens:)
Speaking as an approproately geeky, smart, and adorable guy, I offer you the following advice.
Ask him out again. He doesn’t know that you “like him”. He has *no idea * that you are the least bit interested in him.
How can this be, you ask? Why would you ask him over if you had no interest? The thing is, he’s a guy. And we are norotiously dense, at least when it comes to *our own * love lives.
We can pick up on the slightest hints if they are directed at one of our friends, or at the guy at the table at the other end of the restaurant. But if it’s directed at us personally, forget it. Hit us upside the head, run us over with a truck, buy a 30-second Super Bown ad that says
**“Would you like to go to a movie with me?” **
But don’t wait for us to figure it out on our own; we’re just not that clever.
Don’t worry that he’s blowing you off. He’s just shy, and doesn’t for a moment even imagine that *you * could possibly want to spend time with him. Give it another try, and this time make it abundantly clear that YOU WANT TO GO OUT ON A DATE WITH HIM.
It might sound scary, but trust me, it works. Go for it.
You know, I previewed that post about 12 times.
Super Bowl
grrrrrrrrr.
hmmm…Super bowl ad.
not a bad idea.
But I bet I’m more clueless than he.
Well he seems to like spending at least some time with you, so that’s a plus. I wouldn’t require him to have to invite you to every single event he attends. Just one step at a time, don’t smother him.
I demand (yes, DEMAND!) that this information be placed in Sociology books everywhere.
It appears that the two of you are friends, and that’s cool.
If he’s interested in more, he’ll ask you out.
He may not have invited you to the party because he figured it’d be boring for you.
Also, inviting you to his brother’s b-day might seem more like a bf/gf kind of thing, rather than a “first date” event. You don’t want to have your whole family on a first date (I hope!)
If you game on a regular basis, just invite him again casually.
That’s how me and my first guy got going.
He extended the invitation a couple of times and I accepted.
If nothing else, it could be fun.
Just don’t let him play a kender the first go around. 