I’m actually more amused than I am pissed about this, but I couldn’t think of any better forum for it.
::cue music from As the World Turns::
Apparently, a witty, fun, good-looking, caring, wonderful guy such as myself can’t be “just friends” with a girl without her boyfriend thinking I’m “trying to steal” her from him.
Granted, she’s cute, funny, fun to talk to, witty, and intelligent herself, but dude … SHE LIVES IN A DIFFERENT FUCKING TIME ZONE! It would never work! Granted, you live in the same state as me so she’s in a different time zone for you, too, but what I’m saying is … she loves you. Scratch that - she’s IN LOVE with you. We are friends. FRIENDS. Someone to talk to, someone to laugh with - all the things a friend should be.
I was the jealous type, too, and it cost me many relationships and made me the person I am today. You’re younger than I am, and I know I’m not the oldest or wisest, but I like to think I’ve picked up a few things in my 21 years. One of the things I have learned is that jealousy can be a major problem in relationships. You need to get over it because all it will do is make you both jaded if things ever don’t work out.
I’m not trying to steal your girlfriend. I think she is a sweetheart and a great person to have as a friend. But that’s all she is - MY FRIEND. I’m not a homewrecker. I’ve been cheated on too many times to put someone else in that position. So fucking get over it.
So you wouldn’t be jealous if you found pics of girls your S.O. talked to over IM on his computer and he talked about them all the time?
I’m not saying that you are completely wrong but jealous is a normal emotion. Perhaps you should put yourself in his shoes. just me .02 take it or leave it.
I would be seriously jealous if my SO was having a relationship with someone else who he had never met. I would be very distressed to find nude pics or some such thing, any indication of devotion.
But I’d like to think that I’d wait for an indication before getting mad.
No nude pics, nothing of the sort, but I understand where you all are coming from. But if she says there’s nothing to worry about, and I say there’s nothing to worry about, then it should be settled. “Should” and “are,” however, are two different things. But yeah … I have no intention of stealing this guy’s girlfriend. Some people you just can’t reach, though. Oh well.
I had a friend who was ‘chatting’ back and forth with a guy online. Her chat buddy lived on the opposite shore. Her hubby was pissed about it. When she told me about it, I flippantly asked her if she would cheat on her hubby if she met this guy.
She thought about it for a second. Then said ‘Yeah’.
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[sub]Sorry, the evil dust bunnies made me do it.[/sub]
Here’s a weird story of jealousy for you:
Back in the BBS days (yes, I am training to be an old fart), I had an online thing with “Natalie”. We tried to meet for real, but we kept missing each other. I suspect what really happened was she got nervous and didn’t show. Then she went to New Zealand for a month, and I got together with “Amy”. By the time Natalie came back, Amy and I had gone on a few dates, and she was pissed. I got flamed for a while by email and in the chat rooms, but she eventually left me alone.
I don’t understand this concept of “stealing” one’s girlfriend (or boyfriend). Makes her sound like an object to be possessed. She belongs to herself. She likes whom she likes and, if Syko can woo (love that word) her away from another fellow (if he wishes to do so), then good for him.
Tangent: How can someone “cheat” on you if you’re not married to each other?
Ok, if you DO eventually “steal” his girlfriend, I demand that you shoot yourself in the balls. If you don’t, then good day to you sir. I said good day.
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