Huh. That’s good to know.
Rice University says otherwise:
And this whole thing is still transphobic. “Ha ha, this person you thought was male is female! That’s a joke! Ha ha!”
You’ve heard from a lot of people who do. It would be nice if you assured them it wasn’t going to happen again.
My respect isn’t worth much if anything but you’ve pretty much lost it with your behavior in this situation. “I’m sorry if you were offended?” Nice.
Not sure that’s actually the joke, which is more “People think I’m male but I’m actually female - HA HA NOBODY THINKS I’M MALE”. That’s not so much transphobia as…actually, I don’t know what that is.
That opinion is hardly universal. Even that same database you pasted from is inconsistent. http://neologisms.rice.edu/index.php?a=term&d=1&t=7128
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The point is, it’s immature at best and the anal rape implication is there, regardless of what you thought it meant, so it’s just better not used at all.
I suppose that could be an interpretation, but people around here to tend to assume posters are male, so I think my interpretation fits best.
That’s a different sentiment from declaring “it is a rape joke”. People make lots of comments that can be interpreted more than one way and run the risk of offending.
Personally, I hate “he’s a ______ Nazi” (like grammar Nazi) because of family history it makes my skin crawl. But people use it in a more innocent way than it affects me and even though I’m not wrong, I’m not “right enough” to demand people stop using it.
In my personal opinion, based on my own reading into it, most uses are innocent and it doesn’t rise to the level to violent joking. It means to be overly sensitive about something small. Being raped is hardly something to be over sensitive about, so it doesn’t even make sense.
Double post
Thanks for your opinion.
Not to mention horribly bigoted against those with mental disabilities, using for “humorous effect” the tardphobic slur “fool.”
Also provincial at best— what of our posters in non-English-speaking countries that have no month called “April”? Sure, some of them have equivalent customs, e.g. the French “poisson d’avril.” All fine and good unless you’re a vegan, or someone with high levels of mercury, in which case, too bad. You can sit on the sidelines in your sweltering mud hut with no running water and ten starving kids with malaria and watch through the restaurant window at the First World laughing it up at the banquet table built on the broken backs of your dead ancestors piled in mass graves with their pox-infected blankets. All a big joke, right? One big burlap sack of chuckles, larfs and yuk-yuks.
You’ll excuse me if I don’t join in the merriment.
Ah, I just answered you sincerely, having not seen this thread. Feel free to post my response and laugh.
It’s generally been my experience that people who self-identify as such, usually are not.
Yea, guess I should have checked before replying too…
Chicago Reader identifies us as such, in order to sell advertising.
As I suggested – a suggestion that seems to have been swallowed by a bout of convenient amnesia – this is a facile assumption. My own post was unattributed by you, but contained internal wording that pointed at me.
I’m not upset at it being made public, mind you. But I’m beginning to be upset at your carefree, continued claims that your absurd and careless conduct was somehow mitigated by a lack of attribution.
Vinyl Turnip for the win.
I’m not saying jokes are bad. Enjoy life! But when you’re gorging on Snickers and Funyuns and Laffy Taffy, remember that some of us have to stay home and take the world seriously while everyone else is riding the giggle train to Busted-Gutville.