My car is in the shop, so a ride to the Doc is gonna be hard to arrange.
I’ve got nobody to talk to about this. I can’t confide in Mom, 'cause her mouth runs like jelly, & if anything gets back to Dad, he could get upset, & he can’y afford that right now.
I’m gonna be brief because I’m not very good at these things but would it be possible to just sit your Dad down and tell him that you’re worried about him and that the worrying has made you sick as well?
I am sorry to hear about your father. I do hope that things go well for him. Don’t let yourself worry about it, there’s nothing you can do. Just let him know you love him. Drink plenty of orange juice, that’s good for most of what ails you. Take care.
Bosda I agree with ultress. Let your father know you love him and care about him. Now, get in bed, drink plenty of liquids, get lots of rest. If you’re not feeling better in a day or two go to the doctor. IANA doctor but we gotta get you feeling better. After all, you got a niece to spoil.
StGermain–got a ride for today. Many thanks for your kindness, though.
** swampbear, ultress, lieu**—my Dad is not that kind of guy. Besides, if he & I try to have a heart-to-heart, he gets upset.
Staying home from work today. No sleep. Or rather, short uneasy naps of 1 hour to 1 1/2 hours long, with 15-20 minutes of worried wakefulness inbetween.
If you can’t have a heart-to-heart with your Dad, perhaps you can send him a card with a note telling him how you feel. He can read it at his own pace and maybe absorb some of what you’re going through. I have to have a medium channel my feelings for my Dad—Mom. The only time he ever expressed frustration/anger/pain to me (over my seeking profesional help and he was upset he couldn’t make me better), he promptly hid in the den and then in the bathroom when I tried to talk to him.
I’m glad you’re getting better, you and your car.
Bosda - I just got off the phone with my mother. She had open heart surgery last year, a triple bypass and repair of on valve and replacement of one other. The repaired valve is leaking and so she’s going to have to have open-heart surgery again.
Bosda, my thoughts have been with you since I saw this thread. I also understand about not being able to have a heart-to-heart with your Dad – mine’s the same way. I’m in my mid-30’s and I still don’t have good advice.
One note of caution with the Zoloft. As I posted here two weeks ago, I tried it and got particularly nasty nausea. It showed up within about 4 hours of taking the first dose, so at least you won’t have to wait long if you get it, and I am a particularly odd duck.
Thanks, Bosda, Khadaji - My mother’s a tough bird. She’s 71. In the last 6 years she’s had a mastectomy, an aorta replacement and the first heart surgery. Hopefully she’ll come through this fine.
It is arythmmia. His cardiologist is going to try medication to control it first, & if that doesn’t work, a non-pacemaker implant might be surgically implanted.
All is better than I feared, & not as good as I hoped.
The last few weeks have been an emotional rollercoaster.
