I second this. I love your stories grude. I almost want to move to the islands and be your neighbor, just so I can be the straight man in your stories.
grude, things will get better.
One day you will look back on this and laugh. And laugh some more, laughter evolving into cackling as you struggle against the restraints.
Grude…you had sex while you were asleep? That means you weren’t capable of giving consent…
I hate to tell you this, but you raped yourself:eek:
As a lifetime can’t get the fuck to sleep guy I can relate. My ex was the exact opposite and wasn’t considerate of my condition either.
PS. If you get a room you can lock you can keep the turtles safe in there at night too 
Behaving badly: Wake up and do what I say
He wakes up and does what she says (complain about it in a thread later).
He wakes up and does what she says = the word “yes” / I’m okay with this
Conditioning her to continue this ‘bad behavior.’
To sex, I’m assuming. She doesn’t say no at all, or she just doesn’t say it powerfully enough?
Saying no, even if it isn’t ‘forceful’ = the word “no”/I’m not okay with this
No means no.
He’s a rapist if she said no.
Again, he’s a rapist if she said no.
Nice analogy. Explain it better to me, cuz I don’t get it.
No, really, why doesn’t he stand up for himself more? I get it, she is the one who is being pushy, and she is being wrong, but I get really tired of men complaining about their wives* instead of standing up to them. Oh, she sent me to the couch! Oh, she gets mad! Well, do something about it! Say something!
I’m not saying start yelling or get in a fight. I’m saying, talk to her. And if she won’t even talk to you, then I don’t even know why you’re in a relationship. Communication is vital - I could certainly tell my love something he does really annoys me, especially something like sleep. There has to be a compromise where you can get some sleep. I am one of those people that can fall asleep instantly, and my SO is not, so I take as much trouble as I can not to disturb him at night. Does Mrs. Grude work? If she doesn’t work, she has no reason to wake Mr Grude at all. If she does work, then maybe you guys could alternate nights or something.
You literally cannot function on lacking sleep. I know this!
*I’m pretty sick of women complaining about their husbands, too. I’m equal opportunity like that.
I’m laughing at the Weekend at Bernie’s thing but I do sympathize. One mildly autistic kid here who had HORRIBLE sleep issues until about age 2.5 - seriously, “ruining all our lives” bad issues. He did get over it eventually (younger than your kid).
Might a pet of some sort be helpful for him? I don’t know if a dog would be appropriate - he might decide to take doggy for a walk in the middle of the night, which could be Very Very Bad - but something to provide companionship for him so maybe he won’t have to wake you up.
A separate bedroom might well be an option for you. I mean, it’s not ideal for married couples to have separate rooms, but with an autistic, can’t-sleep-alone kid, there are privacy issues anyway - and you need to look out for your sanity so you can function.
Your wife’s sleep is NOT normal-sounding. Might be worth persuading her to visit a sleep clinic just as a matter of principle. I’d bet she’s a lot tireder than she thinks she is - and undiagnosed apnea (which CAN happen with no snoring) can cause those kinds of sleep patterns. I don’t know whether there are good sleep clinics where you are (Trinidad and Tobago?) but it might even be worth a trip to Miami if that’s an option.
Yeah, my daughter tended to have paradoxical reactions to medications.
She was given a new antihistamine. We were told to give it to her at bedtime as drowsiness was a likely side effect.
After two days of being up til 4 AM, we started dosing her in the morning. It wasn’t Benadryl (dipenhydramine), but she had THAT as a toddler once or twice and yeah, wired.
And then there was the time she was on amoxicillin when she was 3 or 4. It’s not exaggerating (or not much) to say it made her borderline psychotic. The kid always tended to tantrumming, but during those 10 days it was 3-4 violent tantrums a day, utterly unprovoked. Egad.
Can you leave a bottle of water on little Grude’s nightstand?
Your son wanting water in the middle of the night is an easy one to fix just put a bottle of water next to his bed at night.
I can relate to wanting your own locked bedroom ! My ex husband talked in his sleep and I am hard of hearing so that is how loud he was . He also had 4 rounds of fights in sleep , his arms would go flying all over the damn place .
I almost got broken nose while sleeping ! That was the straw that broke the
camel’s back ! I moved into my daughter’s empty bedroom .
I think you should have your locked bedroom if that is the only way you can
get a good night sleep. Your own house would be better ! LOL!
Okay, I’m never again complaining about the cat waking us up at dawn every day.
No wife problems here but we also have a five year old son with high functioning autism who wakes up at anywhere between 1am and 4am and decides that our bed is the place to be. He doesn’t intentionally wake us up – he just wants to crawl in between us – but he’s then a restless sleeper and it’s damn near impossible to get a night’s rest. He’s also sensory seeking so he isn’t content unless he’s burrowed against one of us.
Anyway, I empathize.
Some people react poorly to red dye, which amoxicillin usually has in it. Has she had similar reactions to other red foods?
I’ve heard plenty of stories about “normal” kids who do that kind of thing.
Not that we ever observed, though it’s a reasonable question.
My theory is that its effect on her gut bacteria may have caused behavioral issues; if you google “gut flora behavior” you’ll get a lot of hits from reputable sites talking about the possibility.
Fortunately, she seems to have outgrown whatever it was; she’s had antibiotics a few times since then and it hasn’t recurred.
Yes. Children are hard, especially when they have sleep issues. Upsetting them completely distroys any chance of anybody sleeping that night. There’s a time and a place to teach boundaries, this parent is saying “Now ain’t it.” Nobody else can possibly know all the tiny things that go into that judgement.
Autism is a spectrum that can increase this difficulty factor by anywhere from 1 to 1,000. Failing to take care of something small can lead to hours of emotional trauma for these kids. (And everyone around them.)
It’s common in those of us with ADHD. I’ve often wondered whether you are one of us. 
It seems to me that you are assuming you wife is unaffected by these nightly disruptions because she wakes naturally at intervals. It’s not the same at all. She wakes when her body is ready to, his interruptions are off-cycle and still make her more tired.
So I would conclude that the fair thing would be for each of you to take turns sleeping in little Grude’s room with him, vs getting a full night’s sleep in your own bed. This has the added benefit of slowly getting him used to his own space. Move to a pad on the floor of his room when you can, but if he’s cuddle-hungry, it might be months before that’s going to work.
My people drive me to drink. Then I sleep okay.
Have you thought getting a service dog for your son , the dogs are trained to comfort the person when they need extra attention . The dog could sleep in bed with your son and you and your wife could get some sleep.
How is the separate locked bedroom going to work with the “sleep fucking”? Is it possible to schedule them more frequently? It might be good therapy for you.