im so short....getting depressed

You may be sick of hearing this, but it’s not going to be a big deal in a few years. I’m not much more than an inch taller than you and if you ever get a chance to dance with a 6’ woman, WOOHOO!
Ahem, sorry.

My wife is 4’ 11", so my 5’8" isn’t that bad.
Girls that aren’t obsessed with height are out there.
High school sucked.

peachpit you have gotten some very good advice here. Both of my brothers did not reach their full height and bulk until they were in their 20’s, and my husband continued to bulk up until he was 25.

By the way, I am 5’5", and my husband is 5’4", and we get along just fine. If you have the personality, kindness, honesty, and a good heart to a real woman your height won’t be an issue.

Best of luck, and again, you may still get taller yet, males develop more slowly than girls. My youngest daughter is 5’2", she is 14-going-on-15, and she hasn’t grown an smidge since she was 12. My son is 13, and between September and the present he has grown about 8" and is still growing.

Ah, sweetie, I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. You remind me of my son (now almost 20) – he is also a bit on the short side (he is 5’8" – like you, just a bit below the average). When he was your age he was an inch or two shorter and he was often pretty bummed about it. Nick’s way of dealing with it, finally, was to get into weightlifting. He was about 15 when he started fooling around with weights and, by the time he was 17, he was pretty serious about it. It became a hobby he enjoyed and, obviously, it gave him some control over how his body looked – he couldn’t make himself taller, but he could (and did) make himself bigger. As a fitness buff, he finds that he now views his body in terms of strength and function, and his height (which has very little to do with either of these things) has become steadily less important to him.

…besides, worst case scenario, you can always bust into the porn industry.

I know it probably doesn’t help to say it’s not a big deal, but it really isn’t. You’re slightly below average, but there’s a decent chance you may grow another inch or two. Even if you don’t, you’re not exactly a midget. I don’t doubt that life is a bit tougher for very short men, but you’re not very short.

Most women that I know do care about height, it’s true. But I have yet to meet one that has a specific cut off; if you have other redeeming qualities, you’ll have no trouble finding someone. There’s other things women like a lot that you can change. Learn to play the guitar - apparently chicks dig that. And most women who care about height want a guy who’s taller than they are - which means, basically, you’re going to concentrate on dating shorter women. Plus those who don’t care about a guy’s height, which is quite a few of them. (I know some women who prefer short men, actually. You’re probably not short enough for them.)

My closest friend is a woman who’s 5’3". Like most women, she cares about height. But again like most women (at least ones I’ve known) she only cares that the guy is taller than her - right now, she’s dating a guy who’s 5’5", and perfectly happy with him.

Not every woman is going to be attracted to you. Some won’t be attracted because of your hair color. Some won’t be attracted to you because of your race. And some number of them will specifically not be attracted to you because of your height - but simply playing the odds here, that’s just not all that many of them.

You would have a slightly easier time finding women if you were six feet tall. It’s true. But your odds are only a little worse at your height. It’s just not a terribly big deal. Height is probably the factor you have the least control over - by your age, nothing you do is going to make any difference (and unless you were malnourished as a child, probably nothing you did then made any difference either.) It’s your genetic lot. Frankly, your odds as a slightly shorter-than-average guy are better than they would be if you were fat, or ugly, or had chronic bad breath, or Fish Odor Syndrome (no, really, it exists!)

Your height makes a difference, but it’s just not that big a difference. It won’t ruin your life. Honest.

You’re an inch taller than I am and I’m about to turn 24. No offense, but it’s a ridiculous thing to get depressed over. At this stage in your life, you’ve probably got no control over your eventual height - I think the key periods in which nutrition really impacts future height have long since passed you by. You may not be done growing, but either way it’s best to accept that it’s out of your hands and not tie your self-esteem to your height.

They’re 16, too. Eventually some of them will mature, and they’ll realize that height is an exceptionally dumb criterion to use when searching for a guy.

Well, I’m not afraid to say that I like tall guys. Some girls just do. Lots of girls, my mother for instance, like short guys. One friend of mine will almost fall over for well built dark haired guys in the 5’5 range. Loves 'em. You can work on other things that make you more attractive to the opposite sex, or you could just, I dunno, BE YOURSELF and you’ll meet someone.

Out of curiousity peachpit, do you think all the tall guys out there did something special to be so tall? As long as your not suffering from any malnutrition, you’re probably growing as much as you can right now. And you’ll continue to grow until 20 or so.

Another thing you should know about girls is that they only want guys with at least 8" in another area. And you’re right, there’s nothing you can do to fix it. Better just give up and girls entirely and leave them to the stallions.

(in case you don’t get it, I’m joking)

Hey, dude, big things come in small packages. You’re 5’ 7’’? No sweat, that’s not even particularly short, and you’ve probably still got some growing to do. And even if you were *really *short - check out who clocks in at 5’ 5’’ and below:

5’ 5’’: Chico Marx. Harpo Marx. Charlie Chaplin. Lou Costello. Emperor Hirohito. Roman Polanski. Aristotle Onassis. Thom Yorke. J.R.R. Tolkien. Joseph Stalin!

5’ 4’: Mel Brooks. Mario Andretti. Robert Blake. And, for crying out loud, Ludwig van Beethoven!

5’ 3’’: Paul Simon. Mickey Rooney. Marquis de Sade. Voltaire!

5’ 2’’: Yasser Arafat. Prince. Honoré de Balzac. Charles Manson.

5’ 1’’: John Keats. Edvard Grieg. Joe Walcott.

5’ 0’’: Mother Teresa. Andrew Carnegie. Immanuel Kant. Annie Oakley. Queen Victoria. Deng Xiaoping.

I could go even shorter, but I suppose you get the point. You want to mess with any of these folks? Didn’t think so. So don’t worry about it.

(Thanks to the Who’s Who of Short People.)

My fiance is 21 and shorter then you. And I’m even shorter then him! (5’2’’)

It’s not a big deal. You’re not average height. So what? What difference does it actually make? By the time your out of the teen years I bet you won’t even care.

I’m pretty sure I could have taken Mother Teresa at bare-knuckle boxing.

As for you peachpit, you’re in trouble. My Doomsday Device is nearly complete, and soon the world will be mine to command! After which, all males taller than me will be sterilised, surgically reduced to 4’ 6", and sent to the asbestos mines. You’re just tall enough to qualify, so I’d practice stooping if I were you…

Girl, 5’9" here.

I used to only want to date tall guys, too. How I dreamed of dating someone taller than 6 feet!

Well, in fact I still do dream of a 6 footer. Because as it happens, life never works out how you plan it, and all the guys I have ever met who have been worth dating have been shorter than 6’. Yes, I put on a pair of heels and I tower over them. Sometimes I towered over them even in bare feet.

I got used to it.

thanks for the help! and by the way, i do play guitar. its one of the biggest parts of my life.lol. and youre right, girls like it, but so far it isnt really making up.lol

My cousin was 5’8" till he graduated from high school, then he shot up, he is now taller than me (I am 6’4") at 6’6". He did all that growing in just over one year! Don’t know if that could happen to you, but it might. He did nothing to make it happen as far as I know.

Ok, I’m a 23 yr old girl who is 5’10". I dated someone taller than me once, but it didn’t work out.
I was with a guy who was 5’7" for over three years, it never bothered me other than the fact he wouldn’t let me wear my platform boots when I was around him :frowning: (they made me 6’2" so I guess I understand). But anyway it never caused a problem.

I ditto cowgirl. Yeah I wouldn’t mind a 6’ guy, but I have this insatiable attraction to guys an inch or so shorter than me. Maybe it’s cause I like to know I could pick 'em up and throw 'em if I wanted to :smiley: Just kidding

But not really

Anyway my point is don’t stress about it. Most of the guys that I knew in high school that were your height are now as tall as, or taller than me now. That’s no garauntee but you don’t need one. Shorter guys are cute and usually thier ego isn’t as inflated as the taller ones.

Don’t worry about it. Oh, and the guitar will definitely increase your odds at hooken’ em and reeling em in. :slight_smile:

So, why do you care what most girls think? Are you more interested in winning a contest of some sort, or in finding someone you want to date?

One of the hottest guys I know is shorter than you, and a guitarist. When you reach the advanced age of 31, you realize that it’s more important to find someone who’s talented and creative with their hands than to pick someone who won the genetic lottery for getting lightbulbs off shelves without a stool.

Corr
(6’0" and dating 5’11" and 5’7"-- and loves them both for it)

I’m 5’7" (so a tallish female) and I like being able to look my 5’6" guy right in the eye. Makes for convenient kissin’ too.

One of the neatest and smartest guys I know is not much over 5 feet. His wife (about the same height) is a lucky woman, and their kids have one of the best dads I know.

Seconds to those who say you don’t want a girl who’s hung up on height. And it goes both ways – I’d rather have a cool short guy than a tall asshole.

I agree completely.

My mom is 5’9" and my dad was 5’5". (He claimed another inch, my mom says no.) Funny thing is, she had as hard a time being a really tall girl as you seem to be being a short guy.

Besides, height isn’t everything. I’m 4’2". No joke, I have an oddball sort of dwarfism. Considering that, for what I have, even I am normal. My boyfriend is 5’7" ish. Now THAT’S a height difference! A few inches…ehhh, who cares?

hey, you’re 2 inches taller than me! pity you’re the wrong age altogether :slight_smile:

I had several classmates who got growth spurts in 12th grade.

Re the lactose: yoghurt has the calcium and protein but doesn’t have the lactose, since the lactose is the part that’s fermented.

I’m sure you’ve heard SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO many times that women like 'em tall. Ever seen a roomful of girls watching Olympic-level male gymnastic competitions? Honey, you could bottle the estrogens in the air… I’m sorry to say you’re kind of on the tall side for Olympic gymnast, though :smiley: