In Gentleman's Agreement, shouldn't Phil really have hooked up with Anne?

So, I don’t know how many of you have seen Gentleman’s Agreement, or read the book, but quick summary. Phil, who’s a writer, is hired to write a series on anti-Semitism for a magazine, and, for a hook, decides he’s going to pretend to be Jewish and see what life is like for a Jew in New York. When he’s hired, he meets the niece of the publisher, and the two of them have the fastest moving relationship in the world. It’s pretty much:

“Hi, I’m Phil.”
“I’m Kathy.”
“Want to become engaged?”
“Sure.”

So, Phil does his experiment, and during it, he ends up fighting with Kathy, who, while she’s not a rabid anti-Semite or anything, sort of takes it for granted and is prejudiced against Jews and has all these stereotypes and all.

Meanwhile, in a related subplot, Phil’s childhood friend Dave, who’s Jewish, has just gotten out of the army, and has a job lined up in New York, if he can find a place to live, with the housing shortage and all that. Otherwise, he’ll have to turn it down.

So it turns out that Kathy has this cottage in Darien where she used to live when she was still married to her first husband, but, after the divorce, moved to the city, and now the cottage is vacant. So that would be perfect for Dave and his family, and he could take the job and all is good. But she doesn’t want to sell it or rent it to him, because in Darien there’s this sort of gentleman’s agreement that you shouldn’t sell to Jews…they’re not welcome as residents.

So, Phil and Kathy have this giant fight, they break up, and all. Then Kathy, after somebody at a party tells an anti-Semitic joke and everybody just stands around looking embarrassed, has a revelation, and realizes that by not doing anything about anti-Semitism, you’re part of the problem, and that Phil was right all along, and that she’s a wimp. She decides to let Dave have the apartment, she and Phil make up, the article is a success, and everyone lives happily ever after.

And then there’s Anne. Anne is the Woman’s Editor at the magazine, and she’s a firecracker; strongwilled and fun and a little bit bitchy, and she gets along great with Phil and Dave and shares Phil’s opinions on things and isn’t afraid to stand up for what she believes in and is really just kind of awesome. And, of course, she ends the movie single.

It’s an extremely frustrating book and movie for me in that regard, even though I like them both, because why on earth is Phil with conventional Kathy the milquetoast when Anne is right there? And you know she likes him and would date him if she could. So, who’s with me?

We can talk about societal norms at the time (late 1940’s) - I wasn’t around then, but my sense is that after the war the ideal wife material was a soft, feminine, demure, non-threatening sort of woman, one who would be content at home with kids, not out competing with vets in the workplace. She would have her opinions about things that directly affected her family and home, but otherwise Hubby Knew Best.

Leaving those considerations aside, how many men do you know who would want to be married to a woman who is a strong-willed firecracker, even now? Best buddies, sure. Sex, maybe a hot one-night stand, especially if drinking is involved. Marriage and children? Are you kidding?

I haven’t seen the movie in several years, so feel free to correct me if my memory of it is wrong.

Isn’t Phil initially attracted to Anne, then later repulsed when she reveals herself to be a self-hating Jew? In fact, I seem to recall she says something along the lines of, “I’m not like those kikey types.” Yeah, I think she uses that word.

If my recollection is correct then, no, Anne and Phil don’t belong together. At least Phil’s fiancee comes to regret her prejudice at the end.

No. The person you’re talking about is Miss Wales, Phil’s secretary, who’s Jewish but changed her name and is passing. She’s worried that the magazine’s new religious antidiscimination policy (put in place after the publisher finds out the hiring manager was refusing to hire Jewish secretaries) will bring the "wrong kind of Jew in and increase anti-Semetic attitudes, making it harder to pass.

Anne’s not Jewish.

I would. Wait. What level of strong-willed firecracker are we talking about?

Rose from Titanic? That’s a normal girl for me
Mary Kate Danaher? No problem
Scarlett O’hara? Hmm, maybe.
Fiona Glenanne? If we could keep the C4 usage to a minimum
Angelina DiGriz (from the Stainless steel rat series) Hell no! Run away run away!

I am with you 100%. From a post I made back in 2011:

I do think that the point of the book and the movie was to try to reach the Kathys of the world, the people who didn’t think of themselves as anti-semitic but went along with the prejudices of others, and it wouldn’t have worked if Kathy’s realization didn’t win her the guy.

I just tried picturing a version of The Front Page where our heroine picks Ralph Bellamy over Cary Grant in the end, and it turns out my brain has limits I wasn’t aware of.

I think you’re thinking of His Girl Friday

See? See? My brain is shutting down rather than process the unthinkable.

Captain Amazing, I stand corrected. Thank you.