John:
Your son tells me many stories about you. Not flattering ones, I must admit. He tells me that you were a difficult father and husband. He also says that after his mother died, you changed. You made your peace with your God and yourself, remarried to a positively wonderful woman, and began to focus more on your grandchildren.
I wish that I had had time to get to know you better. We lived so far apart, and I got pregnant so soon after marrying your son. I’m glad we kept in touch so well, though, through the phone and the mail. Your letters of encouragement to Tim, telling him to keep on with his music, never berating him for not having a “real job,” even though he now had a wife and child, meant so much to him. He still has them all, and they’ll never be thrown out, ever.
We found out you had cancer a month before we discovered we were expecting another baby. We had planned to visit you as soon as possible, but you wondered if that would be a good idea, knowing that I was pregnant. I more or less told you to blow it out your ear–we were coming to visit, and bringing not only your granddaughter, but your older grandson as well. That delighted you.
The visit was painful. By the time we got there in the spring, you were just barely hanging on. More than one person told us that they firmly believed that you were hanging on for us, and that you would probably have died several weeks before if you hadn’t known that we were coming. You bounced back while we were there, though. You spent an awful lot of time hugging and kissing your grandchildren, knowing all the time you’d never see them again. And when we told you that if this next one was a boy, he would be named after you, you cried, and said “I’ve always hoped that one of my sons would do that for me.”
Leaving was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. If we could have stayed with you until the end, we would have, believe me. I had an ultrasound the day after we got back, and sure enough, we were expecting a boy. We called you with the news, and you sounded so happy.
The next day you slipped into a semi-comatose state, and didn’t ever really wake up again. Three weeks later, you were gone.
Your grandson is hale and hearty, and he’s got the same twinkle in his eyes that I saw in yours when you played your fiddle for the kids the night before we left. Your granddaughter has it too. They’re spirited little kids. I wish you could be with them physically, but I take comfort in knowing that your spirit lives in them. They’re tough, like you were. They’ve inherited the gift of music, the same one you gave to your son. They’ll be players, alright.
I’m glad I had the chance to know you, John. And feel free to check in on the kids whenever you get time. I know you’re up there jamming with all the old hot country swing fiddlers. ![:smiley: :smiley:](https://emoji.discourse-cdn.com/twitter/smiley.png?v=10)