I’ve sent you all emails, and Holy COW do I feel good right now. I was pretty discouraged when I started this thread, and not only did I not expect help, I vividly pictured the thread disappearing into oblivion with no responses, thus validating my feeling of aloneness in the world. I’d forgotten that there really are good and loving people out there. Thanks for reminding me.
You really need to put a serious beef on your state domestic relations outfit. Perhaps if your ex has no fixed address and no license he could beat the system, but that is now handled by your state in cooperation with the county DRS/family court. Good luck.
I agree with you, and I’m astounded when people don’t vigorously pursue the child support that any single parent is entitled to. The system is in place, and it does work in many cases. My situation is a little more complicated than most, with the fact that my sons’ father lives “underground”- with no formal address recorded, works under the table if at all, and he moves alot. But I’m working on it, have been for the four years since we’ve had any contact with him.
That child support assistance agency may be able to help in even situations such as yours. It seems as if, IIRC, they can take items from them, if he’s paying for ANYTHING, even if relatives are helping him (and IIRC they can do something there too, along the lines of "illegal to aide and abet a criminal?).
Sorry, I have little knowledge of the hunting down deadbeat dad subject, and I’ve only seen the ad on TV so I don’t know what the name is or anything, but perhaps a quick webferreting? (like google only way better, imho :))
I’m reasonably sure it was a public service announcement, so maybe start there? Best of luck, this sucks.
trublmaker, how are you doing?
MUCH better, Scarlett, thanks for asking. I knew it was just a matter of getting through the next couple of months after that, and of course, it was. It was a very bad time for me, made worse by the fact that my best friend, who helps me along, was out of town for 8 weeks. But now he’s back, my last payment (!) on the repairs just got paid, and I’m seeing the light at the end of the tunnel in the form of tax refund!!
I have a habit of seeing impending doom and feeling all alone in the world, and wallowing in it, and then my friends, family, and even complete strangers end up showing me that I’m really not. It happens every time.
If anyone that helped me during my dark time needs ANYTHING at all from me, now that I’m flush, just say the word. You guys rock.