I need your help romantic dopers!! My partner and I have been together for three years but have never paid any mind to Valentine’s Day. She says it’s a stupid Hallmark Holiday and normally I agree. We’ve grown unromantic and complacent in our relationship and I’m hoping to try to kickstart things. Our last anniversary was kind of a flop and so I’m going to ignore her anti-Valentine rhetoric this year and try to make it a special day. (At least the weekend before it.)
Here’s the thing. I’m kind of stuck on what to do. I thought about just renting a nice hotel room for a night or going to a B&B. That sounds cheesy, no?
Staying home for a romantic evening is out because the dogs always have a nice way of ruining the mood. I’d like to get away for a night.
What else can I do to make the evening intimate and fun? I thought about maybe some kind of game where you have to share thoughts, feelings, desires, or whatever since we are trying to get better at communication.
Since you mentioned a B&B, you must have a small budget, which would probably be the equivalent of some nice, soft flannels, and maybe even a new pair of pillows. Few things are as sweet and sensual, and condusive to cuddling, as climbing into a clean-smelling and fluffy-fresh bed. Especially if you used a heating pad or a couple of hot-water bottles to toast up the end where your feet go.
More than the feeling, though, it’s the message it sends to your sweetie: “I put time and thought into something intended to make you feel good.”
Perhaps go driving around. Drive by all the places that have meaning in your relationship. First date, first kiss, where you met, where you bought a dog. Talk about the incidents, and how they impacted you, what they meant to you, how it was one more indicator reinforcing how you felt about each other. Driving often opens people up to intimate conversation in a natural way, and comparing how each of you felt, and reminiscing about the first feelings of love is a nice way to feel connected. Companionable silence is also acceptable when driving, and just the feeling of the two of you enjoying each other’s company in close proximity is great, too. Don’t try to have a big agenda, just keep it loose .
Cervaise, I have friends that can watch the dogs at our house while we’re away but I have no place to take the dogs so we can stay home.
JustAnotherGeek, Because I’m a sap, I still leave her little notes, sometimes hidden in her car, or between the pages of a book she’s reading. I’ve been doing that since we got together. I want to try to do something that we normally don’t take the time to do.
Dafisheroo, That’s an idea to ponder. We don’t have an incredibly interesting courtship to be honest. Things moved rather quickly in true lesbo fashion. Maybe we can drive by all the Home Depots we’ve been to together. I kid. Seriously, we do often have our best conversations when in the car.
I don’t have anything to add here, but was curious. As a mother of three children, I was wondering just what in the world dogs do to “ruin the mood” so badly that a romantic evening is out of the question???
The dogs get jealous, jump up on the bed, bark at the wind, play tug-of-war with a toy, etc. Locking them out of the boudoir just makes them bark and have a fit. :rolleyes:
It would be really nice to get out of our usual routine and environment. Like I said above, we’ve grown complacent. I gurantee, if we stay at home, the evening will most likely suck. If we go somewhere at least there’s a chance of romance.
We had a dog (part wolf) that would howl at the climactic moment every time.
/Hijack
Saturday, February 3rd is a full moon, find a promontory to watch it rise over the horizon while sipping hot chocolate.
You can get rose petals for free, or a minimal cost, from most florists, just call ahead and they’ll start saving them for you. Spread them over that nice fresh bed Cervaise mentioned.
I’m so doing this.
I’ll also go on record saying a stay at a nice B&B is never cheesy. We have a couple of favorites (one in Hot Springs and one in Eureka Springs), and a nice weekend there, with the jacuzzi* and a couple of lunches/dinners out are usually just what the love doctor ordered! No children, no pets, no phone calls from relatives. Just sex and bubbles and food and more sex and some shopping then more sex and wine.
*I have determined that I must always control the bubble bath, though, or things get weird.
When I was at university, sharing an apartment, one of my roommates held a beach party.
He spread a tarp across the floor of his room, imported sand to cover it, added an inflatable palm tree, coconuts, and other jungle foliage, and provided a pool of water and appropriate seabird and crashing-wave sound effects. Then he turned on the beach music, set out the fresh fruit, and invited his girlfriend in.
Maybe we can drive by all the Home Depots we’ve been to together. 
I kid. Seriously, we do often have our best conversations when in the car.