So I’m planning a “date night” for me and my boyfriend… except this date night probably involves staying at my house all night. I’m cooking dinner, bought what I need for his favorite drink (vanilla rum & Pepsi), and might possibly rent a movie from the TV if I don’t stay sober enough to drive. Our relationship has been a bit stale, but we love each other to death… and have for the past four years. We don’t live together yet, so I was thinking that when he gets here I would open the door in some form of lingerie, then jump his bones (for a lack of better words, and omitting details for tact).
We live in a small town outside the city, so there’s not much to do around here. Due to this, even if we could drive and go somewhere, we probably wouldn’t. Does anyone have any ideas of what I could do to add to this evening? There’s quite a few hours, then he’ll be sleeping over, so I need as much romance and fun planned as possible. For the record, we’re in our early twenties, laid back, not incredibly outgoing but not completely homebodies either. He’s a romantic guy, but sex is just add important as romance for him (the same can be said for me).
I know this may seem like something a simple Google search might help with, but that’s not the case - I’ve tried. I’m really looking for input from guys, but girls can be helpful too, especially considering he is such a romantic and maybe there’s something you’ve done in the past that your significant other enjoyed. Any ideas?
Welcome to the Dope,** plainjane**. I have suggested to the moderators that your question might be more appropriate to one of the other forums, as General Questions is usually for factual questions and answers.
Nothing is wrong, you will just get better responses once your thread is moved.
(Ahem), If you ever decide to break up with him, let me know! You sound like a wonderful person and he’s lucky to have you. Good luck with your date, I don’t think you have anything to worry about…
How about a backrub and/or footrub, with massage oil? You could light some candles and dim or turn off the lights. Have some nice ambient music playing quietly in the background, and put a couple towels on the bed for him to lay on. Do the massage in your lingerie, and make it progressively sexual. Have a nice candlelit dinner with drinks after sexytimes, then snuggle and watch a movie you know he likes but hasn’t seen in a while.
If he’s good to go twice in one night, you might try the romantic sober sex right away, then the fun drunk sex (possibly with a blindfold or restraints, if you’re into that) after dinner/movie/liquortimes. Or you know, just a bj might be good for round 2 (and you could use a vibrator on him, you don’t have to insert it, just move it around as part of foreplay). Also, flowers are cliche for a guy to get a girl, but guys aren’t used to receiving them. I suspect he’d really like that, unless he has a macho complex.
This is great, thank you! I’ve thought about getting him flowers, but I always wondered if it would be weird. He doesn’t have a macho complex (thank god!) so it might be a good idea. I’ve bought him a stuffed animal before, and that went well. The rest of what you said I’d probably how the night will go, he called and asked if I’d picked up the movie, which I was totally unaware we had talked about. He’s been dying to see Paranormal Activity 3 (or whatever it’s called), so he’s picking that up on the way over. He’s not one to rewatch movies, so that’ll be good.
Sensual/intimate sex, dinner, drinking/movie, drunkenness, fun sex, sleep. Sounds like a great night to me! Now I’m off to buy flowers and hook up the iPod to the stereo system before he gets here
A nice dinner, not too heavy. (Too much food and vigorous exercise do not go well together, especially when people’s gag-reflexes can be triggered) Some sanbuca and a couple of movies or a slow-paced videogame with his head in your lap. Or vice versa
Better, if you can get one, is a board or card game. You’ll have to find a good two-player one that you can play within cuddling distance of each other, though. Games are better dates than movies. You’re both watching a movie, but you’re* playing *a game. Together.
With a rope harness peaking out of the edges of a under a nice robe or blouse. They’re not easy to put on yourself, but it’d be worth the effort.
Sexy doesn’t have to be something you stop doing to do other things . . .
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But then, I’m a perpetually single, aging geek. Any romantic suggestions I offer should be considered with that in mind.
OK- I’m posting this as if I’m an early- 20’s guy who was invited over to his girlfriend’s house for an all-night date night- here’s what I’d like to experience.
-upon entering, she hands me my favorite drink and after a nice “welcome home” kiss, goes to her knees and gives me a BJ;
-we have a nice dinner (& a drink);
-watch a movie (& have a drink);
-some drunken fun & relaxed, unhurried sex (creativity = bonus points);
-sleep;
-she wakes me up in the morning with her mouth.
Card games, nerdy card games (in the eye of society anyway, I find nerdiness to be kinda sexy) will probably happen. They’re his favorite, and something he plays kinda professionally (technically he’s a professional). I’m sure that if he brings his decks then we’ll be playing. I don’t play professionally, but I’m good enough to keep up.
I, like you, prefer something we do together. I’m not big on movies, but he is, and tonight is his night.
I like “sexy doesn’t have to be something you stop doing to do other things”. I’ll keep that in mind
